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There’s a question that I find myself asking students again and again.

It’s a question that gets to the bottom of how people feel about themselves and women.

It can uncover so much that I’m surprised that it’s not the first thing any trainer asks their students.

If you’re looking for a girlfriend or if you’re wanting to become your town’s biggest playboy - think of the kind of woman that you’re interested in and -

If you were her - would you date yourself?

Now if you answer this question with anything except yes - and “yes, once I got to know myself” doesn’t count - then you know that you’ve got something to work on.

Maybe you need to improve your social circle, get your arse to the gym, learn salsa, sort out that rubbish job you’ve been meaning to leave for years, tidy your flat.

What ever it is that you need to get handled, do it. It will take less time than you think and you’ll approach interactions afterwards feeling like a million bucks (exchange rate and current economic climate permitting)

I started as you are.

I started by reading this website and wondering what was this “System” that PUATraining taught.

I wondered if I really could feel as confident and successful with women as I did in other areas of my life.

But I was worried about what people might think so I didn’t tell anyone before I went on the bootcamp.

But afterwards I felt it was such a positive and eye opening experience that I told everyone in my life.  My friends were truly supportive of me wanting to improve myself. Some needed to have it explained to them, some took some convincing, but they could all see the difference it had made to me.

Now I’m a trainer, everyone in my life knows about that too.

Isn’t it strange that we think it’s completely normal to educate ourselves in every other area but social skills?

So who’s with me – who’s a proud PUA?

I quite often hear some mad stories about peoples’ adventures in game - as you can imagine, the other instructors and I often have crazy situations happen, few of which we can talk about in public, but I’d like to share a few with you guys.

I was being filmed recently for an upcoming product on day game and street approaches.  I was mic-ed up and had the film crew filming my approaches when I approached a very attractive blond. I’ve been trying a new structure which has been working wonders.  I got half way through before she recognised me as one of her boyfriend’s good friends - I completely hadn’t recognised her and I had to talk down the situation and hope she didn’t notice the film crew. 

Over the next few weeks I’ll be sharing more adventures from the team, but we’d love to hear some of the funny things that have happened to you guys - there might even be a prize for the best that I share - email me at gulliver@puatraining.com

Gulliver

So my last post tried to get you guys to stop focusing so much on the opener, this post is going to build on that and help you practising transitioning so if you missed the first part, go and check it out now.

The confidence to transition easily is what we’re looking to build up now – and for the vast majority of you, it will only be confidence is missing. Very few people have problems skipping from subject to subject with their friends and family. So let’s look at what’s going on here – with your friends and family, you have the confidence that they will accept any of your topic changes – maybe they’re things that you’ve talked about before but even if they’re not, you have a history of not running out of things to say.

I’m going to show you an exercise called the Alphabet Game that I developed to show students how conversational topics don’t need to seamlessly link into one another. The funny thing is that loads of guys have said that it’s stopped them running out of things to say.

The Alphabet Game

This is how it works: - You’ll want to chose your own topics but I’ve put some of mine as illustrations

A is for Ask – this is an opinion opener, chose your own

B is for Bungee Jumping – I went bungee jumping in Brazil recently and it was amazing – have you done it?

C is for Cooking - I’ve got a vegetarian friend – what should I cook them?

D is for Dancing – I can tell you’re a crazy dancer

E is for Elephant – I’ve always liked the idea of doing a job where I could ride an elephant to work

F is for Femidoms – what happened to those, did anyone actually use them?

G is for…. etc

So – basically, you think of a topic for the first few letters of the alphabet at first, and you’ll have a ready made list of things to talk about. There are two ways of playing, the first is that you must link each topic seamlessly to the next.

The second way (and by far my favourite) is just to skip from one to another.

You can use each of the below ONCE

“Oh, that reminds me…”

“I saw/heard the maddest thing recently…”

“Did you know…”

What most people find is that having a list of topics in their head that they can talk about combined with realising that girls are fine with conversations that skip from topic to topic, indeed it makes them al lot less predictable, gets them feeling much more confident in set.

More soon

Gulliver

Something that PUA trainers get asked for most by guys who are first getting into this is openers. In this post I’m going to give you one opener, but more than that I’m going to give you a structure that will make a massive difference to the way that you open and the way that you view transitioning.

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