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There’s a term out there that applies to newbies. It’s called “Paralysis of Analysis”. When I first started I definitely fell into this trap. I’d read everything there is to read, and post every place I could find, but rarely go out and do any field work. Now I find it irritating to force myself to sit at my computer and post anywhere, since it takes time away from the time that could be spent in the field, developing social circles, or school and other life building goals.

Many new guys fall into this trap yet many find there way out again and begin going out in the field as I did. There seems to actually be a natural correlation. Those who stay in the community for 3 months will keep it going and those who stay for 5 months usually have begun really learning from the field. This post isn’t for the new guys though. This is for the guy’s who have taken the game seriously and have gone out again and again into the field and still have yet to begin seeing the results that they’ve been waiting for. This post is for every guy who has asked the following question…

“What do I need to do to make that change and get myself to the next level?”

The answer? Become Your Own Guru
Have you been in this game for over a year and a half and still not getting the results? Be your own guru.

Do you go out practically every night yet still see only mediocre improvement, if any, when looking back over the months or years? Be your own guru.

Are all your PUA friends progressing while you feel perpetually stuck on a plateau? That’s right, be your own guru.

See I began noticing when I first got into this that every time I went out with my community wings that a familiar pattern began to happen. Before every pick up we’d discuss what Guru X thinks and why some particular way is better because Guru Y said so. Then during the night out I’d notice that every community guy had a tendency to talk about game instead of actually doing it. I did this myself for a while but finally broke out of that mindset, even so many wings would try and talk about it regardless. Finally at the end of the night we’d have a debrief where I’d be told how something I did was wrong because of something Guru Z said and then we’d debate who made the most sense out of Guru’s A, B, and C.

Everything I did in field was the result of something some OTHER GUY thought was right and taught it to be done. It was maddening to see all the different styles and methods out there, and try and figure out which guy I should listen to. Hoping that the next product from Guru X would finally be the missing piece I’ve always needed. It got to the point where I felt almost everything I learned about pick up could be debated because of the different beliefs and ideas of Gurus. Now that I look back it was a new form of “Paralysis of Analysis” all over again but not quite, it wasn’t exactly guru worship either. It was something I’ll call “Guru Overload”.

PUA’s with Guru Overload can be going into the field nonstop, the problem however is that they keep trying to juggle all these different ideas out there and use stuff from other people without ever trying to figure things out for themselves. Instead of using the community as a reference point to make sense of their own findings they never try and make any of their own findings at all and just keep practicing the next shiny idea in the community. Should we be trying to DHV or is the answer simply to tease more?!

I finally had my click one day and decided that from now on I would determine what’s best in field, not any other guru, unless it made sense for what I personally have been finding. When I did this my game improved dramatically. My wings would say “Why are you doing that? Guru X says you should do this instead.” My reply to this every time was “Ah, but I say I should be doing that.” The thing is most of you already know the answers, or can work it out yourselves, but there’s the fear of “I’m not good enough and need to keep seeing what others think I should do.”

For those intermediate and advanced guys. You know the theory, you understand how this works, and anything you don’t know you understand how to figure it out and learn from yourself. Here it is finally plain as day, do exactly that. Be your own guru already. Socially experiment and stop doing what you think you SHOULD do or is NEEDED and instead begin doing what YOU feel is right and make your own assumptions on things. This doesn’t mean forget about ideas and material out there that can help though, instead learn to appreciate it on a much more meaningful level. Instead of it being something for you to shape yourself to, it can now become something that you may or may not incorporate into your own individual style.

I’m not going to tell you what needs to be done, or the next best thing for your game, or even a new method that you have to learn…how about you tell me instead?

Hope this helps guys,

-Psych

(To read more about me visit my web page at www.puatraining.com/psych and to contact me for any one on one work or bootcamps email me at psych@puatraining.com)

I have a very good friend named Elev8 who, quite frankly, gets more vagina then a toilet seat.  We frequently talk on the phone for great lengths of time and often the topic will come to women and game, in this last conversation we were able to break down something very interesting that he does.  Now sometimes we have our differences in game but this fits perfectly with my own style so I’d like to share it all with you.

The question’s that came up was how do you know the right way to go in?  Should it be direct or indirect? How do you calibrate? ect ect  The answer that we came up with turned into a systematic approach on how to always open the best way possible based on calibrating to the girl.

First let’s take a look at day game.  You see the girl there and want to go in but what’s the best way to go about it.  The most normal and calibrated way would be by using a functional opener.  A functional opener is anything that is very low commitment and perfectly acceptable to ask such as “Do you know where there’s a restaurant?” or “My phone isn’t working, would you happen to know the time?”

What this does is it allows you to simply begin a conversation without any risk and to feel the girl out.  While we’re talking to her and while she’s answering we then gauge the girl and calibrate.  If she’s very receptive with a big smile, turning fully towards you, blushing slightly, or seems to be somewhat attracted from the beginning then the next thing you do can be completely direct.  “Thanks so much, I have to be honest though the real reason I came over here was because I liked your look and wanted to introduce myself.  I’m Psych and you are?”  HOW to go direct the right way is based upon calibrating correctly to the type of girl and figuring what type of direct line would work best for that type.  If you feel you don’t have immediate interest though then you should go indirect.  Again there’s many types of ways to go indirect and it always depends on calibrating to the type of girl again.

Now lets take a look at night game…

For night game it’s pretty much the same thing however we have to take into account the group and energy levels.  In order to not make this to complex though lets stick to the same format.  We go in with a functional opener then assess the situation and calibrate.  If we feel that direct may work and she’s instantly interested then we simply go direct again and run normal game from there.  Also understand that going in direct does NOT mean using direct game!  I can go direct then play the EXACT same type of game I would do with indirect.  The only difference is my intentions are clear which can simultaneously work for and against you in many ways (might describe those in a future post).  However lets say we feel direct wont work for night game, which IMO is usually the case, then we have to go indirect after our functional opener.  The only difference here though is I have the luxury of leaving and re-opening the set which I usually don’t have for day game.  This idea of opening, leaving, and re-opening has been called many things from short setting, working the room, pre-opening, Multiple Interaction Attraction, or the psychology term called the mere exposure effect.  However there’s a correct way to do this and a wrong way to do this, just as there are the right kind of indirect openers and wrong kinds which is what I break down in detail during every bootcamp I do.

As with everything in pick up I strongly believe in the power of simplicity.  So since you now understand the mechanics of this lets make a simple guide to follow to ensure the best success possible.  The guide is go in functional, assess the situation and calibrate, then decide whether it’s best to now go direct or stay indirect.  Now do I use this exact guide every time?  No, but that’s because I have enough experience to know when to change things.  Remember this is a GUIDE not a RULE, so always do your own social experiments and try new things.  However in most situations this is probably the best way to go about it that I’ve seen.

Hope this helps,

Psych

Hey guys sorry I haven’t been active lately but I have a ton of new stuff to share with you that will be coming out soon. Recently though while doing a bootcamp in DC I had a dinner break and headed over to a normal restaurant along with another coach and best friend Lukalicious. Before we order though I spot a huge group of girls and decide to go in with my stripper opener for fun. Next thing I know Lukalicious has the camera out and we begin to mess around, here’s what happened…

Stripper Opener

After this the women began trying to get myself and Lukalicious to come with them to some club with a mechanical bull but sadly we had our own bootcamp to run. The point though is that you can literally game anywhere and should always be open to the opportunity.

Hope this helps,
Psych

(To read more about me visit my web page at www.puatraining.com/psych and to contact me for any personal coaching or bootcamps email me at psych@puatraining.com)