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Hey guys,

As you will have seen, i spend A LOT of time out in the streets and in shopping malls amongst other places walking up to Attractive women, making them laugh and enjoy themselves then finding out what they enjoy doing and finally exchanging numbers with them.

This is a simple process and it WORKS!

You see, i have done over 50 thousand approaches in the last 5 years and less than 2% of the girls i meet flake, if they can’t answer because they are in class or a meeting they text me to say they can’t speak to me right now but they will call me later.

How do i manage to get hot women to want to see me again?

Just by projecting positivity and connecting on an emotional level! Yes, you have to find things in common by asking questions that give her a chance to express her interests and then you connect on that topic.

On Sunday i number closed 2 models!

I met the first one on a train (I am drawn to attractive women and I spend many hours every week finding them). I asked her if we were on the train to London which was also the train she wanted and it turned out that we were on the wrong train.

We got on the right train and connected on a very deep level. I really enjoyed talking to her but she had a boyfriend and she was a few years older than me so no biggie, i still got her number and I have just got off the phone with her. She knows what i do and things it’s really cool… most girls do.

The second girl was a German model and i met her in the same place i meet a majority of models. After soooo many approaches i can tell where people are from by the way they dress and if they’re girls by the way they look. So i walked up to this model and said “Hey, are you from Germany.”

We carried on chatting for about 10 minutes and she was on her way to meet some friends so i thought i would say good bye to her but she insisted that i meet her friends…

I meet her friends and it’s like she is parading me around like her boyfried lol

I thought shame, the poor girl is quite desperate lol

We are meeting up tonight to go salsa dancing which is my standard day 2 activity. I get to escalate touch and show her that i am a fun guy and then i will get her back to my apartment to see some photographs and then i will F close her, shower, walk her to the train station and see what my other girls are up to.

So, being friendly and connecting on some of her interests and then having some interests of your own that you are passionate about is the key to getting women to want to meet up with you.

Getting girls to want to be with you

Enjoy and keep approaching.

Richard Macilwaine

Hi guys,

Just wanted to talk about “Attitude,”  as the way you think about people and the women you are approaching will affect the way you feel and the energy you project towards the girls and your overall performance. This is important because if you can make people around you feel good… they will love your company and want you  around more.

Here are a few thoughts i have about women and people and these are the thoughts that enable me to attract women quickly and easily…

1. Think of the target you are about to approach as if she is your best friend and you have known here for ages.

If you do this and you are able to trick yourslef into thinking/pretending that she is a friend, you will feel more relaxed and comfortable… why? Because you feel relaxed and comfortable around your girl friends don’t you.

2. You are making her day better! The point of every approach is to make her smile, make her enjoy her day just a little more and make her like being approached by guys.

3. Remember that she is just trying to find happiness and love just like everyone else so don’t judge her! Be nice towards her and treat her with respect but don’t treat her like a porcelain dole! Treat her like you treat your friends and talk to her the same way.

4. Be interested in who she is, what she enjoys doing and reward her for being nice and talking to you. When she tells you something, repeat it back to her (so she knows you are listening to her)

5. Treat her the way you would like to be treated, imagine you were in her shoes… how would you like to be approached by someone?

6. Talk to all the girls even if they don’t look like models, talk to every single person you have an opportunity to talk to and watch your people skills grow. Talk to the girl at the counter, have a laugh with the bus driver, get into the habit of being a guy who overflows with positive thoughts towards others.

You will be happier for it… when was the last time you did a nice thing for a complete stranger? Make it a habit every day to do at least one nice thing for a random stranger and watch how it make you feel good about yourself.

Keep approaching and I’m always here if you want some personalised help. 121’s are the best way to improve your game and there are lots of trainers on the site to pick from

Seriously, if you want to make massive progress today and not in the months to come, get some personalised help and ask your coach exactly what you want to learn and get him to demo!

Keep approaching!

THE DARK SIDE OF BEING A PUA:

Don’t be a strange, social robot, living a lie!

I love the community and I see what it has done for myself and more so for others around me. I have met some fascinating people and I have seen guys develop into amazing people and find their true self that was hidden away. However PUA has a dark, sad and (dare I say it) pathetic, unattractive side that I am seeing more and more. This post may be controversial and seen as not a ‘positive contribution’ but it is what I truly believe and see and I hope this is helpful and not destructive and I hope not to offend anyone. However even if these do cause offence they are my thoughts and I stand by them.

Some ‘top PUAs’ I see are social robots. Always gaming, never living! Recently I broke my rule and took up an invite to a couple of community events a friend was talking at. I met some guys who were experienced and successful PUA’s. However talking to these guys I really started to feel I had completely outgrown the whole PUA thing. A dangerous thing for a profession trainer to think I know. However, very quickly I realised it was not being a PUA that I had outgrown it was these guys approach to pick up that I could not relate to or respect. I could not connect with them as a human being, as a real person because quite simply they were living lie. They had become so removed from themselves and numb. Living the dream but in fact living a lie, one that was soon the catch up with them. I was speaking to one of guys in particular, a nice bloke and harmless (one of the top guys apparently) and he was just a social robot. All he did was talk in PU language. He was watching everything I was doing, analysing it, commentating on it and telling me stories about his success. He was also constantly worried I was ‘gaming’ him and jokingly telling me I was AMOGing him and then coming up with some cheap tactic to counteract it from chapter 7 of The Game or something, when in fact I was just being friendly and pulling his leg as friends do to each other because that is who I am…… that is my personality and it always has been, its is my true personality! Something this guys lacked. His insecurities about himself came raging to the service and even though he had learnt routines and concepts to maybe cover them up in a bar with a girl, he was only painting over the cracks and had not really worked on himself hence his reaction to me. Another guy I was talking to opened with saying “Hey I was sarging these 2 HB8’s and my target was giving LMR so I just ‘DHV’ed the fuck out of myself dude to my second target and NEGed my target, increased buying temperature and disqualified my target completely dude which was so cool because she keeps seeking valdation off me now.” He then went on to talk to me about the ‘social matrix’ and how he spots it instantly the minutes he walks into a room and works out how to destroy and concur it. There was no way I could ever be friends or even have respect for a person like this, someone who is a total social robot and has no natural game. I’d rather be an AFC (I’ve broke my own rule there I know) than be like him. Watching them talk to girls was like listening to an audio version of The Game. Granted it kind of worked at first, well they got a couple of flakey numbers but it was so transparent and a girl friend of mine (who knows nothing about pick up) said one of them seemed nice but strange, like there was something weird and not real about him she couldn’t explain…… and don’t get started on the dress code of these clones! I spot them a mile away which gives me time to find a fire exit. Anyway back to that night. So stupidly I mentioned I was meeting some friends in a club who were not PUAs just naturally very good with women (well there is no such thing as a nature in the true sense of the word, they have learnt it from somewhere in life, just not from a book etc.) and a couple of these PUA guys wanted to come and ‘sarge’ with us. No way! No way would I introduce these socially programmed machines to my Mother’s cat, let alone my friends……..they probably even start running routines on my goldfish! The sad thing was these guys were looked up to and it shocked and worried me some were starting to work as trainers in pick up (Not for PUA training BTW!)

More a more recently I feel some of the top guys in the community are lost souls, people who are living under a mask, with a painted on face of coolness. At first the mask can interest a girl but it is not natural and after spending time with them the mask starts to crack and then eventually crumbles because it just does not fit. I feel a lot of the guys live in a dream world of being a player, sitting around a table talking about pick up and routines and not going out there and enjoying life. They seem to always seek validation off women and it almost becomes an addiction where if they are not gaming they don’t feel a true man.

On the whole I tend to stay away from community events and most of my most of my social circles are not made up of PUA’s for the above reasons. I work for PUA training because I believe they are one of the few companies that have an ethos and a cool team of guys (and girls) who share the same beliefs as me, however except from those guys I work with  I don’t mix with PUA’s away from work. I think it is EXTREMELY unhealthy to surround yourself with purely game and also rather sad and desperate which are elements of a person’s life that need eradicating (to become masters in pick up) not indulging in. I think to be become a truly more confident, rounded, attractive person a guy needs to look for inspiration and development in other areas and not just from the seduction community and needs to be brave and look into himself to truly find the source of the problem. To ask themselves why they are looking for improvement in this area? It is about getting at the source of the issue and not papering over the cracks.

In a nut shell I’d say this: WORK ON YOUR SELF….. AND THEN BE YOUR SELF.

A ‘natural’ is really not a real term. I was discussing this with an NLP master friend of mine who said the same. A man is not born amazing with women he has learnt it from somewhere. Usually guys who are ‘naturals’ with women learn and develop this form an early age because they have been brought up around guys who are good with women or they come from social families/good at sport/good looking etc. They have still had to develop that skill and will have made mistakes along the way; just they had the advantage of learning sexual dynamics in their early teens so it is inbred in them now. However an old dog can learn new tricks, just takes a bit of work and there is no reason an older guy can’t develop these skills in a way that suites his personality which is already formed. Therefore learning routines, scripted material, concepts, sections, patterns in seduction etc. are EXCELLENT training tools and the idea for me is to use all these tools, see what fits then chuck away what does not and constantly look for inspiration in all areas of life. Concepts are also great as they are left up to the individual on how to apply that concept. A simple example - Building rapport/breaking rapport. Now that can be done thousands of different ways depending on the individual.

In the end hopefully a person will develop such a strong natural frame that they will not need any tricks and will feel confident to actually leave the whole seduction community behind and just enjoy living their life and the company of a beautiful woman or several. What I think is highly dangerous and highly sad is to hang on to these things, a person needs to let go and trust themselves.

We all have had that honeymoon period where we obsess over pick up and it is a whole new world where anything is possible. It is cool to really dedicate to it for 6 months/a year, reading/training etc. to really find your feet. I know I did but I also had lots of other areas of my life that were full so it meant I did not over obsess it and I found inspiration from other sources such as actor training, stand up comedy, club promoting, writing, travelling……all mind opening. In the end I have hung out with some amazing MPUA’s, seen lots of different styles and approaches to it and been taught dozens of concepts and routines but in the end the way I now approach and open a girl is very complex and difficult to remember so concentrate guys. I walk over, smile, look her in the eye and say “Hi my name is Pete” and shake her hand! Tricky to follow I know! Joking apart I’ve actually come full circle, it took a lot of development to get there but it was all needed and I see the people who have that confident simplicity are the most successful and the most happy which I guess is what everyone is after.

The only way I can look at it is this. In a play a good actor will spends hours every day throughout the rehearsal process processing, analysing and breaking down the script, it can actually become a science, working out every little action attached to each word! However, in the end they have to throw away all that work and just be in the moment and hope all the work has stuck and when they are on stage, it is simply about listening and reacting and nothing else. This takes trust in yourself to let go, it can be very scary, especially when your Mum is in the audience! I think self development regarding pick up should be the same. Work on yourself and then be yourself………..just don’t be a social robot scared of being them self cos it is just not cool. Being someone else on stage for 90 minutes is tough enough I couldn’t imagine doing it in everyday life!

As always, I hope this has been helpful but ‘If we shadows have offended’…….pretend it was but a dream. Just take on what helps and ignore what does not.

Take Care and stay well.

Pete

Hey Guys,

Thank you for your responses readers.  I’m glad to hear you guys are giving it a go; it’s always great to be the part of the motivation behind your success.

This week’s lesson will be referring to what you do once you’ve got the motivation to go out.  It’s all good and well me telling you to go out but not if you’re standing there in that corner of the room like a lemon wishing you could go home- everyone’s been there! It’s that feeling that everyone else must know each other or be friends of friends and you feel like you’re completely out of place and couldn’t possibly talk to any of them. Let us be honest why would they want to talk to you?!

Now that’s the key, this question is the wrong question but it is pivotal in this lesson, the question should be; why wouldn’t they want to talk to you?!

Now if you can sit there and think of lots of interesting things about yourself, you think you are sociable and funny, easy to talk to etc. we can move on to the next part of the lesson if you can’t do this you’ll have to wait until next weeks lesson for your help, sorry boys!  If this does sound like you though comment and I’ll write about this next week depending on the demand!

So back to those of you who are happy with your ability to talk to people and boys, I don’t mean a long conversation.  However, I do mean one that isn’t awkward and consists of more than a weather forecast and a forced smile!  Here the lesson is about choosing your captive audience.  I have found that when working with clients without much experience they tend to pick difficult situations to open and then get depressed by a bad outcome.  Although it is good to get to a level where you can open any set, when in training try and pick open sets to practices on.  Therefore this week’s lesson is knowing who to approach!

This may sound like it’s obvious and easy to some of you but to a large majority it isn’t and it’s a skill that I teach.  It is pivotal in creating a good interaction and it isn’t decided on by the attractiveness of the lady in question, she isn’t more likely to talk to you if she isn’t attractive boys; you’re just more likely to be depressed if it goes wrong because you thought it would be easier!

This is turning into a long post with a lot of branches and questions guys. So next week I’ll tell you who to approach. However until then, if it is easy could you guys tell me, who should you, approach for an easy set?! I’ll respond to the comments and show the pitfalls next week!

On another note; I’m offering FREE yes the was FREE one on one sessions to anyone to can restore the data on my Macbook laptop hard drive after it had mechanical failure. Does any one have access to time in a clean room or feels that they can do the job if so email me or comment back with your contact details.

Until next time, have a great week!

I used to think it unfair that there is seemingly an infinite amount of advice out there for women when it comes to pick-up, with conversely very little for men. Women have Cosmo, Glamour etc. which surely must give them an unfair advantage… after all, they’re so damn good at it! They must be getting good coaching from somewhere, right?

Well, I think the above perspective is fairly inaccurate. For a start, the kind of information in those magazines is often, in my opinion, quite unhelpful. How many women read those titles and are still totally unsatisfied with their love lives? Filled with clichés, fluff and filler, the articles in these magazines often appeal to women’s conditioned sense of what ‘should’ be right, as opposed to the often unsettling truth of what actually is.

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One of the basic elements to meeting hot girls and attracting them is to find them!

It sounds simple but whenever I am out with a student, I am completely suprised at his inability to find targets… or maybe he sees them and doesn’t feel like approaching them, this is more like it.

You are a hunter and you have to go out find these women. When you go into a bar, quickly move around and work out if there are any potential targets, if not… go somewhere else where they might be found.

Keep looking until you find them and when you do… you guessed it, you APPROACH them in a friendly and attractive way.

If you’re in a busy shopping mall, walk around and before you go into a particular room, stand at the door and have a quick look around to save yourself time. If there are one or two potential targets then go into that room. If not… turn around and find another room.

Confidently Approaching women is just about choosing to and then sticking to it.It’s like crossing the road when a car is coming… if you’re like me you don’t like waiting, you have a look to see if you think you can get across safely even if a bit risky, and once you deside to cross the road YOU GO FOR IT AND YOU DON’T LOOK BACK!!! You don’t stop half way and look to see if you still think you can make it across the road do you? NO! If you did guess what would happen… you would get run over.

Once you decide to do it… GO FOR IT UNTIL COMPLETION OF THE TASK.

I know what it’s like having fear but i tell you that i will NEVER experience any Approach Anxiety ever again in my life and i demonstrate this in my videos and in real life on boot camps and other live events.

It’s a choice I made 3 years ago. I said, i will never wait for the right time again, I will Always Approach Women I am Attracted to and that is how i roll.

Students I train also get over their AA in a matter of minutes because of the Energy and attitude they pick up from me… it’s addictive, it’s powerful and once you know how it feels you will be able to replicate this feeling and it’s this feeling that enables me to consistently attract Beautiful women in a natural, smooth and affectionate way.

Women love to be around me because I know how to make them feel sooooo good. In fact I know how to make people feel good and I know how to make them feel confident.

Alright, thats a bit for today, hope your enjoying the videos. The Approaching HB’s Day Game DVD that i have been working on for a while is almost ready for ya.

Richard Macilwaine

click here to watch a few clips from the DVD coming soon

hey guys

I want to touch on an important point for the starter PUAs rather than the advanced guys.

After a few hours of theory I regularly send my students out on day game. I accompany them to a bookstore, café, gallery, museum, department store, etc.

Before sending him on an approach, I remind him of the three vital elements of pick up which I would have already taught him in the theory session (a blog post for another time.) After helping him locate his target, I find my position to make sure I can not only see him but hear him too, and off he goes, beaming with high energy, high status value and a general positive frame of mind. This is a typical scenario in Waterstones bookstore, a particular store which is very large (7 floors) and where a surprisingly large amount of females seem to go to in the late afternoon.

The Student goes in to open an HB 7, who is casually browsing the “self help” section (excellent start).

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We occasionally train guys by telephone, as part of Gambler’s courtesy phone consultations with mPUAs, and usually the guys we train are very keen to learn from us and try new things.  This week I called some guys who had trained with us last January, expecting to be giving them 30 minutes chock-full of advice like we normally do, but this time I found myself being cut short just two minutes into the phonecall… a lot of these guys now had girlfriends and lovers and mistresses!  I found myself speaking with guys who were totally different from when I last met them in January… they were now confident and happy and eager to tell me their success stories, and their enjoyable journeys through game.  I was a bit shocked at first, but what can I say?  A lot can happen in a year, and they were well-trained.

The first guy was really excited about his story: “I made love with this girl on the stairs of her hostel man, at 3 in the morning.” He was already a semi-natural, but booked us to enhance his game even more.  He was a musician, and I drew parallels between pickup and music so he could express himself better, like telling him, “Open up. Don’t perform. Create.”  He used this to meet new girls, but he met this one while he was still in a relationship, so I told him even if someone’s done it to you, you should let girls down gently, because you never know how it might affect them.  He didn’t want to break up with her, so I taught him ways to deepen their understanding so she might accept an open relationship.  He’s now dating multiple women.

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Every year in my community we hold an annual function that involves music, dancing and socialising. I saw an amazingly gorgeous woman last year, lets call her ‘V’ for now, I thought she was very attractive, but this time last year my game wasn’t as strong and I don’t think I even managed to open.

Now you might think you know where this is going but no I didn’t run game and win the girl. What I did, was be myself and have fun as always, and eventually I happen to be sitting on a seat next to her and just because I was on a high from having fun, I opened her as a friendly guy. I did everything a PUA shouldn’t, e.g. I told her I remembered her from last year. I was just being the guy I was before I had game, a nice friendly guy. Then something happened, I got to know her as a person in a relaxed interaction with no game, just two people being themselves and that allowed me to see she how truly beautiful she was inside and out. Now I ran a little bit of game on her to stay out of the friends zone, apart form that I know did everything wrong on the night, but the reaction I got from her was like I was running game and it was working.

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If you know within yourself that you were not amoged, is that enough? Or do you need others to know it too? If you were in David D’s situation, what would you do?