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After 15 months of working tirelessly on my new book,
“The Natural: How To Effortlessly Attract The Women
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THANK YOU!
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You are the reason why this book has become a reality.

It’s you, my students, that drive me day in and day out
to keep innovating, refining, and redefining the way the
game is played.

Its you who are responsible for “The Natural.”

A book that I consider to be my magnum opus.

A book that ties every method, technique, and tactic I’ve
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You won’t have to memorize scripts and routines…

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And for the first time in your life, you’ll be able to just
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But in a way that women simply can’t resist.

I know this book is going to have a profound impact
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Now, because this release is such an important moment
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-Rich (Gambler)

So, it’s a new year. Or, at least, it was a New Year. And we all had big expectations, resolutions, things we were going to do, people we were going to be. And then a few weeks in we miss a day at the gym, we sneak a cigarette, we fuck our ex. The same ex we promised the New Year god we’d never fuck again.

Resolutions fade. Work starts up again, unforeseeable events weasel their way into your life, the weather gets too cold, you oversleep, and all in all, life happens. It comes with the territory, but the important thing is to not let real life, daily grind, and normal human stuff come between the things you want to accomplish and your goals. And that’s what I’m writing you today about.

One of the biggest resolutions nearly every PUA makes in the new year is to practice more. In our heart of hearts, we all know the way to get better fast isn’t sitting in the warm light of a computer screen reading qualification articles and 5-step escalation ladders. It’s getting out there and talking to girls. It’s doing it. It’s building your own game, not reading about someone else’s.

But how do you do that when from 9-7 you’re working, and then you’ve got dinner plans and the only human interaction you have in the course of a day is with Tony the doorman and your barista? Well, it’s all about making the most out of the interactions you do have, and the time you can spend.

1: Practice Opening without Opening

At our bootcamps, we teach that the ideal way to start a conversation is a spontaneous, situational opener. This means that something you observe in that moment- whether it be something to do with her, someone else or the environment in general, and comment on it to your target. The difference between this and a lot of the stock openers people learn is that it has to be in the moment. It has to be current. And to do it quickly takes practice. It takes building the improvisational/observation muscles, so you can look at any situation and find something to talk about.

But what if you don’t have the time to stop and open every girl on your way to work? What if you can’t afford to open all the girls in your building? Luckily, you don’t have to actually say a word to build that muscle. What if you were to look at a girl and then in your mind decide what you would say, if you did open. Try looking at the girls who walk by you during the day and asking yourself “What would I say to open her?” This way, you don’t even have to pick the hot ones you’d actually want to talk to. You can use anyone- old women, teenagers, even guys- to get in the habit of quickly creating spontaneous openers, even when you can’t take the time to actually do it. So then, when the girl you do want to open walks by, you’ll already know exactly what to say.

2: Practice Building Commonalities with everyone

One of my favorite pieces of advice I ever heard from Adam was “Talk to people. Most people don’t actually talk to people.” It’s true, think of your day- the barista at Starbucks, the guy in the elevator who talks about the weather, the woman at the laundromat- people everywhere talk to you, all the time. And you probably nod and say some polite nothing phrase like “Yeah, gonna get colder tomorrow” or “Thanks, see you next week.” What a waste!

These are prime opportunities to practice comfort building. Some of the same stuff that you’d use throughout an interaction with the guy at the hardware store could be used just as well on the blonde ten at the bar. Where is he from? What does he do? What is his life like? Use these opportunities to enhance your conversational skills. Each time a person talks to you, whether it begins in the most obligatory, functional, or polite manner, try to find something that the two of you could, if you really wanted to, keep in touch over. You’ll soon find those little mini-practices give your game huge leaps forward when you’re actually in the field.

3: Hang out with girls you already know

Almost everyone has heard this advice, but very few people actually use it. Ironically, it’s probably one of the easiest ways to kick your game into high gear. You know girls. Even if you think you don’t know girls, you do. Your sister is a girl. Your ex-girlfriend is a girl. Your mom is even a girl. Just because a girl isn’t winging you, doesn’t mean she’s worthless to your game. Talk to her. Her interests, her perspective, her personality, are echoed throughout her entire gender. Women aren’t all the same, but a lot of them are strikingly similar.

First off, talking to girls is the quickest way to learn what women are interested in. When one girl tells you you have to check out the new Jenna Marbles video, or the new Sam Edelman’s she bought, you’re getting constantly new content for your next interactions. So when one girl in a two set gives you ‘The Face’ you’re in on the joke rather than walking away sheepishly. (and if you don’t get that, look up Jenna Marble’s ‘The Face’ so it doesn’t happen to you ;P)

Secondly, if you can hold your female friend’s attention, you need only replicate that in field. The constant calibration feedback you get from dealing with women is the reason why practice makes you good in the first place.

4: Practice.

If and when you can, practice. There’s no substitute quite as good as a good old fashioned cold approach. It’s clichéd for a reason that practice is the fastest way to get good. So do it when you can, sneak it in to your busy schedule, make it a part of your daily grind rather than inhibited by it. Just a half hour of real one on one conversation with a cold approach target and a night out on the weekend will keep you improving at a steady rate. Just don’t give up, because then next year’s resolutions will sound a hell of a lot like this year’s.

A Happy New Year to all, and thanks to everyone for supporting me over the last one.
Thought I’d start 2012 with a bit of a hot potato. What stops a guy from approaching? The more astute readers will notice that I didn’t categorize it immediately as approach anxiety as I do not believe that it is as simple as that.

You see, I see many students who are quick to say, “I do not get approach anxiety,” but then don’t approach anyway, citing some other excuse to not go and open. Common ones are “I’m tired”, “She’s walking too fast,”and my favourite, “She’s not hot enough.””She’s too young” also comes up but that’s an entirely different blog.
Therein lies the age old philosophical argument between instructors of, is this a legitimate excuse, or AA in disguise?

Because when guys start off practising game, it feels normal and acceptable to have a modicum of approach anxiety. Which is a feeling of tension or apprehension which kicks in just before an approach which irrationally rationalises the possibility of being rejected.Obviously.
This is fascinating when you think about it. Millions of years of evolution and we as a species have had to endure hostile conditions, predators and disease, and have have developed the feeling of anxiety, to warn us and help us to survive.Yet, the very same feeling of threat and danger kicks in before we go and talk to a girl.

What the hell is at threat here?I mean, logically, surely we all know that the vast majority of girls are not going to kill, maim, infect or devour us (in a bad way), so what is the anxiety set to serve?
Well it protects against a threat to the ego. The Male Ego.

The Male Ego works, on the most basic level, if I do X, then this makes me more of a man; if I fail, I am less of a man.So rejection tarnishes the ego. Not really cutting edge news.
But we are willing to accept a little tarnishing in the acquisition of skills and call it a learning curve. So when we start out, it is much easier to accept the odd knock of the ego.

The problem emerges when the skills become more solid and we start to look for markers of success.Then negative outcomes or rejections seem to hit harder as we adopt an ethos of “I have the skills so I should have succeeded” blah, blah, blah less of a man.

The natural reaction to this is to establish comfort zones, that is people will game or interact only in ways or environments which they are completely confident in their abilities, unwilling to risk rejection. This is terribly inhibiting to personal growth and indeed evolving one’s game.

It also results in the aforementioned resistance to approaching whilst denying approach anxiety. Call it Approach Apathy if you will. It’s just another way of protecting the ego. Incidentally the most extreme example of this that I have heard is, “I know that I can get any girl I like so I won’t even bother to approach.”That doesn’t even make any sense.
There are wider implications to this. There is an infectious state that occurs especially when you are with a group of people who are collectively not approaching. It becomes more difficult to approach when your friends around you have the reluctance to approach (or push their game), and it seems that the common denominator is to not be rejected. The idea of “not being rejected” becomes more important than the possible benefits of approaching and hooking up. Conversely, it seems easier to approach if those around you are also approaching and indeed getting success and rejections, as the concept of rejection seems less potent. Socially Proofed Rejection as it were.

We end up catching a cheeky dose of outcome dependence where we avoid approaching challenging sets to avoid rejection and/or only approach “sure things”or DTFs (you know the people who would go home with a garden tool and thus require very little game to close), to garner the evidence that we are indeed, pimp. Afraid to find out that it may not be true. We need to accept that as humans we are imperfect, and at every stage are capable of having swag-tastic awesome interactions, as well as epic blowouts of mass destruction.

So how do you become an Approach Machine? What do the best approachers have in common?

COMPLETE INDIFFERENCE TO REJECTION!!!

In fact the word “rejection! should not exist in our vocabulary. Learn to love getting blown out. Appreciate that experiences that go spectacularly wrong are more valuable (and arguably fun) than those that go spectacularly right. Hell, reprogram your markers of success in terms of the number of spectacular blow outs that you get. Try and get blown out deliberately; it’s actually quite hard. Even if you are quite advanced in the game, just like trying to lift a heavier weight to grow more muscle, you need to challenge yourself and risk losing to grow more.Your strength is not just about your awesome outcomes, it is about your tenacity to keep going through bad ones.
Here’s a little inspiration that sums it up quite well.

Until the next one.

Stay classy,

Shamwow.