This is a bit of fun.

Was teaching a student on sunday, and I’d previously told him that I’d gotten a couple of street kisses before and he really wanted me to demo it.

It told him that it wasn’t an easy thing to do, but I’d try my best (i’m always up for a challenge). Also the last girl he tried to open had headphones on and he failed to make her stop, so this was a sticking point at the moment and also wanted me to demo stopping a girl with headphones on. And as luck would have it the next hot girl we saw had headphones on.

So in I go (direct as usual!)

She stops, and we get into a fun interaction.

I do a little bit of kino by highfiving her at a highpoint in the conversation and spinning her round, but apart from that I didn’t really escalate at all. I was just getting to know her and qualifying her a bit. But after a few minutes I wanna start seeing if there was any way I could get that kiss…

The battery in my phone is off, so I get her to save my number in her phone.

She says “What shall I save you as… Andy what?”

I tell her “Andy Good Kisser”

She agrees, with a smile, and saves my number.

Then I get a bit closer and tell her I have to go meet my friend, and it was awesome meeting her.

I tell her “Give me a kiss on the cheek”

She complies. It’s a soft kiss, near my lips. *green light*

I point to my other cheek.

Another soft kiss, near my lips. *green light*

As she pulls away from the third kiss, I stay close, then pulling her into me, kiss her.

I pull away with a smile, with strong eye contact, then go in for a second kiss.

Probably the best demo I’ve ever done  ;D - I’ve gotta point out that this is only the 3rd of 4th time I’ve kissed a girl on the street like this - I’m not some kind of street kiss close pimp. This probably won’t happen again for a long time!

Good fun anyway

I found myself lying in bed with a girl last night, with her back to me as she’s playing with songs on her lap top, and felt the familiar unpleasent feelings and thoughts.  Should I go for it?  Will she be down?  Can I make it smooth? As well of course that sexual escalation anxiety.  Thankfully I was able to get around it all but it made me realize just how many guys would fail here, and just so close!  That’s when I decided this topic seriously needs to be discussed.

There are guys out there who are INCREDIBLE at getting women attracted to them and wanting to sleep with them, these men look like rockstars and on the surface seem like they get laid every other night.  The sad fact is though that they don’t because they lack the final skillset, the one thing every guy at some point must master….the ability to sexually escalate.

Like all of game there are two components to being able to sexually escalate, outer game and inner game.  The outer game is incredibly simple but the inner game is what causes 99% of the problems.  I’ll list the key problems guys have with sexually escalating.

The outer game part consists of only two things. 

1) Smoothly running up the kino escalation ladder so that every new advance is comfortable and natural

2) Pulling the trigger when the time is right

With number one it’s just a continuation of the kino you’re building off the bat.  If you’re doing solid game your kino should have been escalating naturally throughout the pick up anyways, if not then you have a serious sticking point that needs to be addressed from the initial pick up.  The second part just means a strong kino jump and having the ability to go “cave man”.  When we pull the trigger we forget about “gaming”, the game is done and now it’s time to go for what we made happen.

Simple enough right?  The format is pretty basic and down right easy, the real problems come from our heads.  While the action of pulling the trigger is nothing, actually letting yourself do it is a whole different story.  Here’s the three major inner game issues regarding sexual escalation and how you can get around each one.

1) Fear of failing after getting so close

When it’s time for end game and sexual escalation there’s been serious investment on your part for this girl.  She doesn’t feel like just another set anymore since you had to work for her and spend time on her.  After opening, hooking, building comfort, creating attraction, handling her friends, dealing with logistics, and getting either a number or kiss close, the last thing you want to do is mess it up now.  The way to deal with this is by understanding two things.  First she IS just another set and you have to be willing to fail just as if you were only opening.  Even if it blows up in your face it doesn’t take away from the fact that you were able to get up to that point.  By remembering this you’ll feel OK to fail and wont place so much value on the girl.  Second make the mental shift from investing your time and energy into the girl to investing it into your game.  By investing in the girl and the interaction you begin to put heavy emphasis on everything and begin fearing to mess up.  By investing in developing your game you realize you HAVE to pull the trigger otherwise you’ll never learn and get better.  Like Nike says “just do it”.

2) Assume sex

Think about this for a second.  She’s in your bed and has shown obvious signs of attraction all night.  I can almost guarentee she wants it to and it is true that women enjoy sex as much as men (if not more).  Start thinking about what’s going through her mind, “Why wont he go for it already?” ”I gave him enough signs, I hope he mans up” “God I’m horny! He better make a move!”.  Obviously you don’t know what’s going through her mind but the point is you assume it since it’s most likely true and will lead you to taking action that’s best for the pick up.  Understand that women enjoy sex as much as men do (if not more) but because of their social conditioning can not allow themselves to be responsible for doing anything that can lead the interaction to sex.  She also EXPECTS you to sexually escalate since you’re a man, it’s normal and not low value to want sex…in fact if you don’t go for it she’s left to either think you don’t like her, you’re a wimp, or you’re gay. What this boils down to is that it’s on you, don’t let her down.

3) Immersion

To often are analytical game heads seriously get in the way at this stage.  In the example I gave you about myself I remember clearly analyzing all the possible kino escalation moves I could do to try and make it smooth, but then remembered the idea of immersion and stopped all that.  The idea is that it shouldn’t feel robotic or structured since it’d make it bad for you and probably feel creepy to the girl.  Instead turn your mind off and let your body do what it’s naturally meant for.  When we feel immersed we go on primal instinct and let the situation flow, allowing it to be as natural as possible and to fully enjoy it as well.  To do this just relax yourself and notice the pleasant way she smells, how nice and smooth her skin feels.  Allow yourself to fully enjoy the moment with her and fully accept your arousal and desires.  Let your hands wander where they want as well as your lips.  Basically stop worrying so much and simply enjoy yourself.

If you don’t fear messing up since you understand it’s just another skillset to practice, assume it’s on and feel confident escalating, and allow yourself to be immersed and enjoying it so your head doesn’t interfere, there’s really no reason why you shouldn’t be able to sexually escalate.  Go out there and pull the trigger!

Hope this helps,

Psych

Just a quick one…. I have a couple of weeks off from my busy timetable so I will try and post a little more as I don’t always manage to get to share as much as I would like guys

One of the many objectives a PUA has is to get a girl ‘in state’ as when a girl is in state it makes seduction and escalation much more rapid. The better you become at state control the less time and effort you will need. People will not see you ‘gaming’ because you will be too fast! It is called being seductive. As we all know people use many different ways to get her in the right state. Might be through NLP, kino routines, stories, a ‘YES LADDER’ etc. etc. there are so many ways. Some guys even tell a girl what they find attractive in a women or use a 3rd person and loan behold the girl then starts behaving in that way. A natural uses his frame and aura to get her in the zone without any tricks. The way he talks, touches her, eye/lip movement, smile, you name it! He has the touch.

So the place where I believe you will find girls in a positive frame?

If they have just finished watching the film ‘THE YES MAN’

Serious, go on the pick up outside there because whole film is like one big Yes ladder. People are in an adventureous state and it may not last long! Play on the sense of being open to new experiences or people. I have a feeling this is going to become a popular Day2 dvd choice.

Let me know results

Take it easy guys

Pete
P.S. Hopefully you will run into HBs who have seen that film oppose to some deep Russian tragegy….. But in fact that will be cool too because they will need comfort. In fact I’ve found a cinema is a great place because people tend to feel very open and emotional in one way or another as they have been on a journey. So depending on what film they have seen, you will have to adapt the angle you are coming in at. It is great fun!

Ok well maybe the second best…the BEST tool would have to be a condom which you should have on you every time.

However other then that the best tool for Pick Up is…drum roll please….the CAMERA.

Many people when given this question will sometimes say a pen and paper (or buisness card) but in reality, with skilled application, the camera will win hands down every time. Also note by camera I mean a digital camera where you can see the pictures right away.

What makes it so special? Well first of all it allows for quickly getting in close and helps break possible kino barriers, such as putting your arm around her waist. Or making multiple other forms of kino socially acceptable… 

It’s also fun and builds comfort to look at pictures that the two of you take together and can be easily used to break rapport and tease her. You can incorprate role playing into it by taking “bad ass” pictures.

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Approaching

Day game, Night Game, Friendly, Direct, Subtle, Drunk, DHV, Social Proof, Confident, Telegraphing interest, shy, introverted, personal, impersonal, work related, comforting, helping, complimenting and the list goes on…

Bars, clubs, streets, shopping malls, cafe’s, busses, trains, parks, grocery stores… There are billions of places and ways to approach and have great interactions with women that lead to bonding and relationships.

This is my way of meeting people… I walk up to them wherever they may be and I say or do a few things that causes them to respond to me in a positive way. They like me instantly, if they don’t then I keep changing my strategy until i do something that  they do like or if I have calculated that the subject is not worth my time or that the subject is no longer worth pursuing I simply abandon that particular Approach.

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Heya guys,

When I first started the game I had the pleasure of being able to devote all of my time to developing new ideas and theories based on my own experience in field and research which helped alter the way thousands of people around the world approached the game. Unfortunately I’ve been so busy teaching recently that I’m just not getting the time I wanted to write up all my new theories and findings. However there was a little something I’ve been researching recently which gives a slightly new perspective to an old game we’ve been playing.

Those who’ve studied with me will be aware of my method of starting from comfort and exploiting social proof for all it’s worth. Well it turns out that actually a lot of my methods are not only backed up in the psychological studies I’ve mentioned in my own works but also by numerous other studies that where to demonstrate something other than attraction, that of conformity.

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What is Rapport?

Rapport is what will get you laid!

You need to be a master of rapport if you want to get anywhere with girls. If you click, it’s on, if you don’t click… GAME OVER! How are you able to bond quickly with a girl so she feels really nice and comfortable around you?

Your intentions are the underlying factor which govern your behaviour, what you say, how you move, when you kino her etc. It’s all about what you think about yourself and what your intensions are.

Women are all different and they are all looking for different things, some are looking for an adventurous bad boy while others are looking for a friendly chilled out guy and some… in fact most are looking for a guy who is a combination of the two. You have to be able to understand the feedback she gives you when you approach and then keep changing your approach untill you do or say something that she likes. If you approach with a direct opener and see that she is slightly shy the you will need to change your strategy  QIUCKLY or she will be gone and you will have to find a new target.

Rapport is the main ingredient for girls to want to hang out with you and be nice around you. If you are uncalebrated… ie, you say something that isn’t true She WILL PICK IT UP… GAME OVER. Be honest at all times and try to tell stories from your own life and most importantly be interested in who she is and what she says to you. Far to many guys out there are caught up in thinking about what they are going to say next… This is no good.

When you’re hanging out with your guy  friends chatting about sport or whatever else you chat about, do you think of what to say to your friends next so they think you are a cool guy? I DOUBT IT. If so then you definitly need to get out and do about 100 approaches every day for a few months. Aim to make those approaches last as long as 5 minutes.

Rapport happens when people share similar thoughts, similar beliefs, similar style of dressing, similar music, similar places they live in… basically when people have things in common there will be rapport and thats it! Having things in common with a hot girl will make her feel more comfortable arond you.

So what you have to do is become agreeable with hot babes, become more understanding, be more agreeable and show them that somehow you understand them and you sympithise with them and watch how they like you a lot more. They will give their time to you and let you escalate the relationship… they will alow themselves to be taken by you!

For example, if you were on holiday in a totaly different country where there werent many people from your country ever and you just happended to meet someone else from your country maybe down at a beach or maybe in a bar. So you get talking to this person from your country and they tell yoy a story about their city… WHAT? They actually live in your city… the rapport deepens, you feel more conected with this person. So you ask where about in the City are they from… WOW they are from the same area as you. Which street do they live on they ask you. They live at the top of your road. They know all the same places as you do and they even know some of the same people you know. THIS IS RAPPORT. You are so deeply connected now. You will feel comfortable with this person because they are so much like yourself.

Isn’t that interesting… we like people who are like ourselves. To some up how you can build rapport with anyone from anywhere in the world you need to listen closely to what they say and try to connect on some of the words they use. Try to bond somehow or show that you know a little about their world and their experience.

In my live Approaching videos I demonstrate how to get rapport with really Attractive girls. I hope you have time to check them out as they will really help your game. You will be able to see exactly what I’m talking about when i say build rapport by having things in common and sometimes the things I have in common are really simple things but they are enough to make a connection with a girl. I get phone numbers and go on dates all the time with beautiful women who like me because I learnt how to connect with them emotionally using the techniques of rapport.

all the best

Richard Macilwaine

Recently I found a nice restaurant that is high up in a similar fashion but not revolving. It actually overlooks my old house, I’ve taken a few dates there, they always enjoy the view, and it’s enjoyable for me because I get to reminisce.

It’s great to be an interesting person but I think to rely on that alone isn’t ideal. There are lots of interesting places and this can make up for the times when we aren’t at our best and most interesting.

Most guys will become more attracted to a girl when she plays hard to get or is difficult in some way. I’ve noticed what I do. I do honest reward and punishment. Example:

Reward: increased attachment and doing more for her.
Punishment: Think of her more casually.  At the extreme end look for other women.

Example: She takes a long time to get back to you, she is often late, she goes out and gets drunk with her friend, she is inconsiderate, you do things for her and she doesn’t reciprocate when she has the chance.

Each of these thigns should result in a punishment which means you think less of her and treat the relationship more casually, even to the point where you date other girls.

When she behaves perfectly you don’t need to punish her and can reward her with increased attachment.

The actions above would get on my nerves in a girl so why should I reward them with increased attachment?  This seems obvious but most guys will chase more when a girl plays games or takes away her emotion a little bit.  You also don’t need to go too far the other way in being a bastard all the time.

The sincere reward is just as important.  It allows to have a happy relationship.  The sincere punishment just shows her that she can’t start taking the piss.  It’s natural that women start to get bored if you are too nice, but they get bored and misbehave, and then you punish this and then they come back.  When you are in a relationship you have more “wiggle room” or margin for error so can get away with mistakes for short time before the relationship goes wrong.

Would love to know if this strikes a chord with any guys who have had relationships go wrong!

A Pickup Artist, most commonly, abbreviated to PUA is a term used to describe a certain kind of man. A man who is skilled in: meeting, attracting and seducing women. The term Pickup Artist started in the 1970’s with How to Pick Up Girls by Eric Webber. The primary goal of any Pickup Artist is to have the ability to approach, meet and seduce any women he wishes.

The way in which an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) approaches the art of Pickup is wide and varied, as each person has different aspects of their game and their approach to seduction that they need to improve. There are certain things you should do, regardless of which methodology of game and seduction you follow, in order to become a Pickup artist.

I’ve broken down the transition form AFC to PUA into four easy to follow steps. The following is a guideline to help you get the very best out of your entry into the world of Pickup and seduction.

Step 1: Appearance
Most methods of Pickup agree that genetic looks are far less important to male-female relationships than society says they are. You need to look at yourself and accept the things about yourself that you can’t change, and also pay attention to the things you can change: Your hair, clothes, complexion etc.

All of the great Pickup Artists have gone through this transition.This is an important step in becoming a Pickup artist, if you look good; you’re going to feel good.

There is also a technique called Peacocking (Peacocking means dressing for attention. Just like Peacock’s use their feathers to get a mate, the same technique is used in Pickup to attract women) where your fashion is key to interacting and attracting women. The general ideology begin peacocking is that by dressing in an outlandish or unique way, you attract women to yourself. It’s important that wherever your new look takes you, it is congruent. If you’re going to dress like a rockstar, you should act like a rockstar!

Pick a Style
If you’re not sure what kind of style to go for, have a look through an issue of GQ or any high street fashion magazine.

Get a Haircut
Make sure that your new cut and style suit you. Don’t go to a barber, go to a proper hairdresser and ask for a consultation. They’ll be able to give you a good idea of what will suit you.

Get new clothes
Now that you know what style you’re going for, make sure you buy clothes that fit! Nothing looks worse than a man who doesn’t know how to dress himself.

Step 2: Approach
To be a pickup artist you have to be able to approach any woman in any situation and leave with her details. You can learn pickup lines and openers in numerous books and online sources, but the only way to get good at is to get out there and do it! You need to Approach! Approach! Approach!

The majority of people entering into the world of the Pickup Artist have AA (Approach Anxiety); this is very common and with a little concentrated effort can be overcome. The reason most students of pickup are frightened of approaching women is that they fear rejection. Rejection should not be feared, you can learn a lot from rejection. The more you get rejected, the more you’re going to learn about male-female interactions, it’s a learning curve.

In terms of opening, don’t worry about that at first. Feel free to ask simple generic questions. The initial goal is to become comfortable and proficient talking to strangers. As you get more used to it, you can concentrate more on what you’re saying and the reaction it provokes in the target.

When approaching, pay particular attention to the energy level of the set. You want to be entering the set with a slightly higher energy level than the set already has. If you enter a set with low or less energy, you’re going to find it very difficult to keep their attention.

Approach at least ten people a day
These can be male or female. At first don’t try to get number closes (unless it’s going really well!), just get yourself used to approaching and talking to strangers.

Approach male and female groups
Don’t just approach woman on there own. There’s nothing particularly wrong with doing that, but you’ll learn lot more if you can interact with large and mixed groups.

Read
Learn as many openers and routines as you can (make sure you use and practice them). The more you learn, the less chance there is of your mind going blank when in set.

Step 4: In set/ building attraction
A good pickup artist will pay particular attention to his behaviour in-set. It’s not enough to just open a set and ask for a number (although this sometimes works). A pickup artist must build attraction for the target and leave her wanting more.

Eye contact
Eye contact is one of the most important steps in building attraction. You should not stare at the target! Maintaining good eye contact helps to invest the target in the interaction and creates sexual tension.

Humour
You should use the time in-set to demonstrate your sense of humour. You can do this by making fun of her, or telling her something funny about yourself or someone else. A good sense of humour is very attractive to women!

Disqualification
People always want what they can’t have, so don’t make yourself too available. Disqualify yourself from being a potential suitor as early as possible. Also remember to disqualify them (do this in a nice way, use humour- “you’re way too short for me”)

Kino
A great way to build attraction and escalate is to use Kino. You want the Kino to appear as natural as possible. Don’t just start grabbing and touching the target! If you’re expressive with you hand gestures, escalating Kino should appear natural, and not creepy!

Interest
At some point during the interaction you’re going to have to demonstrate that you are interested in the target. This is absolutely fine as long as you have built a decent amount of attraction. You want it to appear that, after talking to her, you’ve become attracted to her. You want her to think that your decision to be with her was based on more than just looks!

Step 4: Closing
So you’ve got a new style, you know how to approach and build attraction…what next? To be a great pickup artist you need to be able to number close. There are many different approaches to closing, and eventually you’ll find the ones that suit you and your game best. Over time you will also be able to develop your own techniques. But to start, it’s best to follow already proven plans.

Number close
The conversation has gone well, it’s time to leave but you still haven’t gotten that number! Here are a few examples of how to close:

“What’s the best way of staying in touch with you?”
This is an indirect way of asking for a phone number. This is fine to use if you’ve been ‘under the radar’ through most of the interaction. If you’ve demonstrated your interest to the target, you shouldn’t really use this.

“I want your number” -”can i have your number?”
This is a dangerous one as you’re demonstrating a direct interest in the target. You should only really use this if you’re sure that you’ve built enough attraction between you and the target.

“I’m going to call you”
“You don’t have my number”
“Oh yeah, that’s right” (Pull out a pen)
This is a great way to get a number, it’s non threatening and since you’ve pulled out a pen, you’ve put the target on the spot and she’ll find it hard to reject you.

For more advice on how to be a Pickup Artist, visit: http://www.puatraining.com

-TC