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Hey guys,

Wow, I can’t believe it has been so long since I last posted! Jumping on the New Year bandwagon this is actually a post I meant to put up around November but never got around to it.

The Background.

When with a student I like to refer to how important a first impression is. If your first impression isn’t strong, you face a battle to make up lost distance, and then prove to her that you are a cool guy worth spending time with.

Now a few people might have read that and start crying out old pick-up mantras: ‘But I’m the prize! She should want to game me!’ Let’s be honest with ourselves here, none of that is true… at least not straight away.

You only become the prize once you have proven you are the prize. Very few girls will actively view you straight away as someone to be chased and invested in without you having shown them why. It can happen, but only in special circumstances. In a regular bar, nightclub or in the street, you need to show them why you are worth the effort.

And all this comes down to making a good first impression.  By doing this you are cutting out a great deal of work for yourself, as most of the qualities you need to convey, aside from conversational ability and escalation ability, can be demonstrated in that initial moment. That’s why we are going to have a look at these qualities and go through how to show them effectively in this post.

The Breakdown

 
First let’s break this down into two sections, the initial look, and the initial contact. The initial look is what they see when they first look at you. The first judgement they will make. It comes in three parts:
1) Fashion.
2) Body language.
3) Value in the environment.

Each of these three things are related to your overall value. If all three (minimum two out of three) are high, then you come across as a high value guy and the girl is more likely to be open to you approaching, forcing IOI’s, etc. Without them, it will naturally be more of an uphill battle.
The initial contact comes in when you actually open your mouth and deliver the opener, and comes in four parts.
1) Eye contact.
2) Body language.
3) Vocal tonality.
4) Proximity.

Together these four things make the strongest impression when making contact. Strong eye contact is a sign of a comfortable, secure and confident man. This is especially true when combined with relaxed body language.

By having a voice that is paced (by which I mean you aren’t speaking too fast), this shows an air of dominance and authority. Notice how good public speakers pause and slow down as they say their key points. It is the same theory here.

Finally, your proximity (how close you are standing) to them will grab their attention and make sure they have noticed you. The ideal distance is right on the edge of their comfort zone. If you want a guide, it would be the same distance from your elbow to the tips of your fingers, if your arm were bent at your side.

The worst thing that can happen when you open is not for a girl to say ‘no thanks’ and then to turn away. It is for her to say ‘excuse me?’ (or much more likely in England ‘what?’). If you haven’t got her attention before you open your mouth it is an uphill struggle from there. It is far better to create a good first impression with a bit of thought and effort, and make the work later a bit easier, rather than springing a surprise opinion opener on a girl without her knowing you are going to say something beforehand.

So there we have a bit of a mindset (though slightly technical) first post of the New Year for you all. I plan on finishing my Strategy for Nightgame post series soon, but in the mean time if you have any questions on this or my other posts, please do not hesitate to contact me on: karl@puatraining.com

Until next time!

Karl

“The Journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” -Lao Tzu

In the process of doing thousands of hours worth of residential training, teaching people from all over the world, helping people with a gamut of inner and outer game issues, I keep coming back to a fundamental lesson.

Learning is best done in small chunks.

Usually, what happens is something like the aspiring PUA goes out, tries everything all at once, the girls get weirded out, he gets frustrated, everyone goes home sad and alone.

I hope to save you from this terrible, expensive, time-wasting fate, and help you learn much more quickly.

So, just like that person taking a journey of a thousand steps, you’re going to take a journey of thousands of approaches. Maybe less. Probably less. It’s irrelevant, let’s move on.

First, commit to practicing regularly. twice a week for 4 hours+ is bare minimum to get better. Consider it like working out: If you work out for 3+ times a week, you’ll probably gain a lot of strength. If you’re just trying to maintain your strength, you can go to the gym less often. Starting out, go out regularly, but just like in the gym, you don’t want to go so often you burn yourself out.

Also just like the gym, some people are going to hate practicing approaching. I understand, there’s lots of times I was like, “Dude, a nap sounds way better than going out and talking to random people!” But you know what got me out of bed? Pick up buddies! Just like working out tends to happen more often if you have a buddy pushing you, the same thing will happen with pick up. You’ll hold each other responsible, and you’re more likely to go.

“But Justin!” you exclaim, “If I had any friends, I wouldn’t need this pick up stuff!” Don’t worry my introverted reader, I have a solution for you too! Take a shower, put on some nice clothes, and go to a place with a bunch of people. I’m a fan of pubs and shopping areas, but go wherever there’s a high concentration of people. Hang out for half an hour. While you’re there, you’re probably just going to get bored and talk to people just because you can. If not, if you just don’t have it in you to be social, and you put in your half hour, I give you permission to go home, but I want that half hour!

Now, when you’re out, doing your approaches, most people will try to apply everything they’ve learned. This is a quick way to get good at none of them. If you aim at every target, you aim at none. Pick one or two things you want to focus on, and drill into them. Start with opening. First, practice opening indirect. Then try opening, and then giving the women a compliment. Work your way up to a compliment opener. Getting comfortable with everything means that you can apply whatever will best suit the situation. From there, practice building rapport, story telling, breaking rapport, kino, qualification, sexual escalation. If you do it just like you did with openers, you’ll find yourself making steady improvements constantly.

Even having approached numbers of sets that get into the 5-digit range, I always fall back to these basics. And I focus on one at a time when I practice to keep my game sharp as a tack.

Hey guys,

For this post I really wanted to get something out there that has been in the back of my head for a good few months now: there is more than one type of attraction.

Now this seems to make perfect sense and yet we do not consciously think about it with pick up. We learn how to create attraction, but do not think about how to utilise each type! We can think, for a working model, that there are two types of attraction: Classic and Sexual.

Classic attraction is what we would all think of straight away. The attraction felt between a guy and girl, who then can enter into a relationship, maybe get married etc. etc. It is what has been taught and is achievable through the principles we teach on our Bootcamp’s: opening, building comfort, breakingrapport, qualifying and then closing – either via a date or on the same night.

What is Sexual attraction?

Sexual attraction is built on the same principles. But utilised in a very different way. Instead of the girl viewing you as prospective boyfriend, she will instead view you as a prospective sexual partner, whether it is for the night or multiple times.  A goal for some guys coming on our courses is the idea of having multiple girl friends. In order to achieve this you have to be open and honest if a girl ever asks you about your situation. But what if you didn’t have to?

Building Sexual attraction achieves this. It goes unsaid that you are a guy with many women: it communicates an abundance mentality. This means that until you start to transition into Classic attraction with the girl, the topic will very rarely come up.

The Technique.

So how do we build Sexual attraction? Through the same process as building Classic attraction, but with a small twist: everything is as fast as possible.  It should be said that the most common, and easiest, place to build Sexual attraction is in a nightclub, and more difficult in daygame, with a bar scenario sitting slightly more towards the nightclub end. Below are some points to guide you on building Sexual attraction:

1)   The opener should either convey intent (direct). This should not be ‘hi I want to sleep with you’ direct, even ‘hi, I would have kicked myself if I didn’t come over and say hello, what caught my attention is…’ might be too much if the situation doesn’t call for it. The ideal opener would be to force an IOI, followed by walking up to them and saying ‘Hey’.

2)   Break rapport quickly. Due to the direct nature of your opener the intent has already been placed on the line, so escalation can occur quickly. While it is true comfort does need to be built, not nearly as much does for Sexual attraction. The minute she is hooked you want to break rapport.

3)   Qualify her and give her some physical compliance tests, one of which should be a form of isolation. This part is to be fairly short, and between some fluff talk to build a little bit more comfort, but nothing too deep, otherwise it will be incongruent with the image you are putting across.

4)   Escalate hard and fast. Keep the eye contact and introduce pauses. Look at her lips and smile every now and then. Ideally you want to get to a point of holding her hand as quickly as possible, or standing with your arm around her waist. Once one or both of these points have been reached you are ready to K-close, give her some intense eye contact, and slowly draw her in for the kiss.

5)   Look to extract. If she is with friends return to the friend group and build some group comfort (mentioned in my last post), all while keeping the kino up with the girl without her friends knowing (there is a great segment on this on the Stealth Attraction DVD set, but an example is caressing her back while your hand is on it).

After you have F-closed her, and if you have taken her number at any point, keep the texts within a close time frame of date times (around a week to five days before). The dates themselves should not be dates so much as a pre-meeting before the bedroom, so ideally a club, bar, or your house. Again, we do not want much comfort building and we are looking to move it to the bedroom as quickly as possible.

Points 1-4 above can be achieved in around 5 to 10 minutes when done correctly, although be aware that there will be a small number of girls who just will only respond to Classic attraction.

It is also possible to build Classic attraction once you have built Sexual attraction. The method is fairly simple: building more comfort. However it is not as easy to convert from Classic attraction to Sexual attraction.

In summary:

• There are two types of attraction: Classic and Sexual.
• The method to building both is similar, but Sexual attraction is achieved faster.
• Classic attraction portrays you as a boyfriend character whereas Sexual attraction does not.
• It is possible to go from Sexual to Classic attraction fairly easily, but not as easy to go the other way.

That brings me to the end of this post. If you have any questions or comment leave them here or send me an email: karl@puatraining.com

Until next time!

Karl