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Ok well maybe the second best…the BEST tool would have to be a condom which you should have on you every time.

However other then that the best tool for Pick Up is…drum roll please….the CAMERA.

Many people when given this question will sometimes say a pen and paper (or buisness card) but in reality, with skilled application, the camera will win hands down every time. Also note by camera I mean a digital camera where you can see the pictures right away.

What makes it so special? Well first of all it allows for quickly getting in close and helps break possible kino barriers, such as putting your arm around her waist. Or making multiple other forms of kino socially acceptable… 

It’s also fun and builds comfort to look at pictures that the two of you take together and can be easily used to break rapport and tease her. You can incorprate role playing into it by taking “bad ass” pictures.

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Approaching

Day game, Night Game, Friendly, Direct, Subtle, Drunk, DHV, Social Proof, Confident, Telegraphing interest, shy, introverted, personal, impersonal, work related, comforting, helping, complimenting and the list goes on…

Bars, clubs, streets, shopping malls, cafe’s, busses, trains, parks, grocery stores… There are billions of places and ways to approach and have great interactions with women that lead to bonding and relationships.

This is my way of meeting people… I walk up to them wherever they may be and I say or do a few things that causes them to respond to me in a positive way. They like me instantly, if they don’t then I keep changing my strategy until i do something that  they do like or if I have calculated that the subject is not worth my time or that the subject is no longer worth pursuing I simply abandon that particular Approach.

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Heya guys,

When I first started the game I had the pleasure of being able to devote all of my time to developing new ideas and theories based on my own experience in field and research which helped alter the way thousands of people around the world approached the game. Unfortunately I’ve been so busy teaching recently that I’m just not getting the time I wanted to write up all my new theories and findings. However there was a little something I’ve been researching recently which gives a slightly new perspective to an old game we’ve been playing.

Those who’ve studied with me will be aware of my method of starting from comfort and exploiting social proof for all it’s worth. Well it turns out that actually a lot of my methods are not only backed up in the psychological studies I’ve mentioned in my own works but also by numerous other studies that where to demonstrate something other than attraction, that of conformity.

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What is Rapport?

Rapport is what will get you laid!

You need to be a master of rapport if you want to get anywhere with girls. If you click, it’s on, if you don’t click… GAME OVER! How are you able to bond quickly with a girl so she feels really nice and comfortable around you?

Your intentions are the underlying factor which govern your behaviour, what you say, how you move, when you kino her etc. It’s all about what you think about yourself and what your intensions are.

Women are all different and they are all looking for different things, some are looking for an adventurous bad boy while others are looking for a friendly chilled out guy and some… in fact most are looking for a guy who is a combination of the two. You have to be able to understand the feedback she gives you when you approach and then keep changing your approach untill you do or say something that she likes. If you approach with a direct opener and see that she is slightly shy the you will need to change your strategy  QIUCKLY or she will be gone and you will have to find a new target.

Rapport is the main ingredient for girls to want to hang out with you and be nice around you. If you are uncalebrated… ie, you say something that isn’t true She WILL PICK IT UP… GAME OVER. Be honest at all times and try to tell stories from your own life and most importantly be interested in who she is and what she says to you. Far to many guys out there are caught up in thinking about what they are going to say next… This is no good.

When you’re hanging out with your guy  friends chatting about sport or whatever else you chat about, do you think of what to say to your friends next so they think you are a cool guy? I DOUBT IT. If so then you definitly need to get out and do about 100 approaches every day for a few months. Aim to make those approaches last as long as 5 minutes.

Rapport happens when people share similar thoughts, similar beliefs, similar style of dressing, similar music, similar places they live in… basically when people have things in common there will be rapport and thats it! Having things in common with a hot girl will make her feel more comfortable arond you.

So what you have to do is become agreeable with hot babes, become more understanding, be more agreeable and show them that somehow you understand them and you sympithise with them and watch how they like you a lot more. They will give their time to you and let you escalate the relationship… they will alow themselves to be taken by you!

For example, if you were on holiday in a totaly different country where there werent many people from your country ever and you just happended to meet someone else from your country maybe down at a beach or maybe in a bar. So you get talking to this person from your country and they tell yoy a story about their city… WHAT? They actually live in your city… the rapport deepens, you feel more conected with this person. So you ask where about in the City are they from… WOW they are from the same area as you. Which street do they live on they ask you. They live at the top of your road. They know all the same places as you do and they even know some of the same people you know. THIS IS RAPPORT. You are so deeply connected now. You will feel comfortable with this person because they are so much like yourself.

Isn’t that interesting… we like people who are like ourselves. To some up how you can build rapport with anyone from anywhere in the world you need to listen closely to what they say and try to connect on some of the words they use. Try to bond somehow or show that you know a little about their world and their experience.

In my live Approaching videos I demonstrate how to get rapport with really Attractive girls. I hope you have time to check them out as they will really help your game. You will be able to see exactly what I’m talking about when i say build rapport by having things in common and sometimes the things I have in common are really simple things but they are enough to make a connection with a girl. I get phone numbers and go on dates all the time with beautiful women who like me because I learnt how to connect with them emotionally using the techniques of rapport.

all the best

Richard Macilwaine

Recently I found a nice restaurant that is high up in a similar fashion but not revolving. It actually overlooks my old house, I’ve taken a few dates there, they always enjoy the view, and it’s enjoyable for me because I get to reminisce.

It’s great to be an interesting person but I think to rely on that alone isn’t ideal. There are lots of interesting places and this can make up for the times when we aren’t at our best and most interesting.

Most guys will become more attracted to a girl when she plays hard to get or is difficult in some way. I’ve noticed what I do. I do honest reward and punishment. Example:

Reward: increased attachment and doing more for her.
Punishment: Think of her more casually.  At the extreme end look for other women.

Example: She takes a long time to get back to you, she is often late, she goes out and gets drunk with her friend, she is inconsiderate, you do things for her and she doesn’t reciprocate when she has the chance.

Each of these thigns should result in a punishment which means you think less of her and treat the relationship more casually, even to the point where you date other girls.

When she behaves perfectly you don’t need to punish her and can reward her with increased attachment.

The actions above would get on my nerves in a girl so why should I reward them with increased attachment?  This seems obvious but most guys will chase more when a girl plays games or takes away her emotion a little bit.  You also don’t need to go too far the other way in being a bastard all the time.

The sincere reward is just as important.  It allows to have a happy relationship.  The sincere punishment just shows her that she can’t start taking the piss.  It’s natural that women start to get bored if you are too nice, but they get bored and misbehave, and then you punish this and then they come back.  When you are in a relationship you have more “wiggle room” or margin for error so can get away with mistakes for short time before the relationship goes wrong.

Would love to know if this strikes a chord with any guys who have had relationships go wrong!

A Pickup Artist, most commonly, abbreviated to PUA is a term used to describe a certain kind of man. A man who is skilled in: meeting, attracting and seducing women. The term Pickup Artist started in the 1970’s with How to Pick Up Girls by Eric Webber. The primary goal of any Pickup Artist is to have the ability to approach, meet and seduce any women he wishes.

The way in which an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) approaches the art of Pickup is wide and varied, as each person has different aspects of their game and their approach to seduction that they need to improve. There are certain things you should do, regardless of which methodology of game and seduction you follow, in order to become a Pickup artist.

I’ve broken down the transition form AFC to PUA into four easy to follow steps. The following is a guideline to help you get the very best out of your entry into the world of Pickup and seduction.

Step 1: Appearance
Most methods of Pickup agree that genetic looks are far less important to male-female relationships than society says they are. You need to look at yourself and accept the things about yourself that you can’t change, and also pay attention to the things you can change: Your hair, clothes, complexion etc.

All of the great Pickup Artists have gone through this transition.This is an important step in becoming a Pickup artist, if you look good; you’re going to feel good.

There is also a technique called Peacocking (Peacocking means dressing for attention. Just like Peacock’s use their feathers to get a mate, the same technique is used in Pickup to attract women) where your fashion is key to interacting and attracting women. The general ideology begin peacocking is that by dressing in an outlandish or unique way, you attract women to yourself. It’s important that wherever your new look takes you, it is congruent. If you’re going to dress like a rockstar, you should act like a rockstar!

Pick a Style
If you’re not sure what kind of style to go for, have a look through an issue of GQ or any high street fashion magazine.

Get a Haircut
Make sure that your new cut and style suit you. Don’t go to a barber, go to a proper hairdresser and ask for a consultation. They’ll be able to give you a good idea of what will suit you.

Get new clothes
Now that you know what style you’re going for, make sure you buy clothes that fit! Nothing looks worse than a man who doesn’t know how to dress himself.

Step 2: Approach
To be a pickup artist you have to be able to approach any woman in any situation and leave with her details. You can learn pickup lines and openers in numerous books and online sources, but the only way to get good at is to get out there and do it! You need to Approach! Approach! Approach!

The majority of people entering into the world of the Pickup Artist have AA (Approach Anxiety); this is very common and with a little concentrated effort can be overcome. The reason most students of pickup are frightened of approaching women is that they fear rejection. Rejection should not be feared, you can learn a lot from rejection. The more you get rejected, the more you’re going to learn about male-female interactions, it’s a learning curve.

In terms of opening, don’t worry about that at first. Feel free to ask simple generic questions. The initial goal is to become comfortable and proficient talking to strangers. As you get more used to it, you can concentrate more on what you’re saying and the reaction it provokes in the target.

When approaching, pay particular attention to the energy level of the set. You want to be entering the set with a slightly higher energy level than the set already has. If you enter a set with low or less energy, you’re going to find it very difficult to keep their attention.

Approach at least ten people a day
These can be male or female. At first don’t try to get number closes (unless it’s going really well!), just get yourself used to approaching and talking to strangers.

Approach male and female groups
Don’t just approach woman on there own. There’s nothing particularly wrong with doing that, but you’ll learn lot more if you can interact with large and mixed groups.

Read
Learn as many openers and routines as you can (make sure you use and practice them). The more you learn, the less chance there is of your mind going blank when in set.

Step 4: In set/ building attraction
A good pickup artist will pay particular attention to his behaviour in-set. It’s not enough to just open a set and ask for a number (although this sometimes works). A pickup artist must build attraction for the target and leave her wanting more.

Eye contact
Eye contact is one of the most important steps in building attraction. You should not stare at the target! Maintaining good eye contact helps to invest the target in the interaction and creates sexual tension.

Humour
You should use the time in-set to demonstrate your sense of humour. You can do this by making fun of her, or telling her something funny about yourself or someone else. A good sense of humour is very attractive to women!

Disqualification
People always want what they can’t have, so don’t make yourself too available. Disqualify yourself from being a potential suitor as early as possible. Also remember to disqualify them (do this in a nice way, use humour- “you’re way too short for me”)

Kino
A great way to build attraction and escalate is to use Kino. You want the Kino to appear as natural as possible. Don’t just start grabbing and touching the target! If you’re expressive with you hand gestures, escalating Kino should appear natural, and not creepy!

Interest
At some point during the interaction you’re going to have to demonstrate that you are interested in the target. This is absolutely fine as long as you have built a decent amount of attraction. You want it to appear that, after talking to her, you’ve become attracted to her. You want her to think that your decision to be with her was based on more than just looks!

Step 4: Closing
So you’ve got a new style, you know how to approach and build attraction…what next? To be a great pickup artist you need to be able to number close. There are many different approaches to closing, and eventually you’ll find the ones that suit you and your game best. Over time you will also be able to develop your own techniques. But to start, it’s best to follow already proven plans.

Number close
The conversation has gone well, it’s time to leave but you still haven’t gotten that number! Here are a few examples of how to close:

“What’s the best way of staying in touch with you?”
This is an indirect way of asking for a phone number. This is fine to use if you’ve been ‘under the radar’ through most of the interaction. If you’ve demonstrated your interest to the target, you shouldn’t really use this.

“I want your number” -”can i have your number?”
This is a dangerous one as you’re demonstrating a direct interest in the target. You should only really use this if you’re sure that you’ve built enough attraction between you and the target.

“I’m going to call you”
“You don’t have my number”
“Oh yeah, that’s right” (Pull out a pen)
This is a great way to get a number, it’s non threatening and since you’ve pulled out a pen, you’ve put the target on the spot and she’ll find it hard to reject you.

For more advice on how to be a Pickup Artist, visit: http://www.puatraining.com/articles/how-to-be-a-pua.html

-TC

I understand routines. I understand why you would want to harvest phone numbers. I understand why you would spend hours and hours learning how to manipulate any interaction. These aren’t things I do personally. One thing I also never do is lie. I recently told a girl that what I wanted from a relationship was for me to have multiple girlfriends and for the girls, in turn, to have multiple boyfriends, keeping everything light and fun with no possibility of jealousy. This lead to me being in a new situation. I am so very happy and excited that I decided to share with you my findings. The situation I am currently in has involved me experiencing the following things.

1.Falling in love with a girl who I consider my main girlfriend.
2.Sleeping with another girl who I see infrequently who is in full knowledge of my main girlfriend’s existence and vice-versa.
3.I assisted in the getting together of my main girlfriend and a self confessed ‘PUA’, who she is with right now which is why I’m online
4.My primary girlfriend asked me yesterday in awe at how I made her feel “How do you exist?” and told me that I had given back her faith in MANkind, and that she has never felt as attached to anyone on such a deep level as does with me. She, after having made one of the biggest womanizers (and by womanizers I mean selfish *@?!) that I know, wait for 5 months before a physical relationship, had blessed me by opening up to me in considerably less time and she feels no regret. She is also aware of my other girlfriends.
5.I have never felt so happy and free from jealousy, I just want to run round the world making people feel good about themselves.

The scariest thing is expecting a ‘No way!’ when suggesting it. Sometimes you’ll get that and they will warm to it. They may then leave but why would you want to be with someone if the only way you could be with them was by settling or lying? If you continue to talk to them but make it clear that you aren’t going to change what you want to suit them it can turn out quite nicely.

Two days ago I was telling a girl the way I manage relationships and what she said went a bit like this.

“No way, I would never do that. Never. I could never do that. Never ever. Maybe for one night, but never longer than one night. Maybe a few but I wouldn’t call it a relationship”

At this point she started rubbing her leg against mine. I was quite taken aback.

Honesty IS the best policy.

-MD

Erik Von Markovich, alias, Mystery vieni considerato da tanti come il fondatore della “seduction community” nella sua forma attuale. Fu il primo ad offrire agli studenti la possibilità di imparare direttamente da lui come sedurre donne ai ‘bootcamp’ attraverso il Metodo Mystery (una seria di tecniche, aperture e routine per rimorchiare le donne). Tra i suoi primi studenti c’era anche un certo Neil Strauss- autore del best seller ‘The Game’. A questi bootcamp Mystery insegnava il suo patentato ‘Mystery Method’ (“metodo mystery”) coprendo le varie fasi della seduzione considerate necessarie dal momento in cui un uomo vede una donna alla quale è interessato ad andare a letto con lei: Attrarre; (creare) Comfort; Sedurre e Conquistare il suo target.

Anche se applaudiamo gli sforzi di Mystery e del Metodo Mystery come pioniere nell’industria, riteniamo che le sue tecniche siano state migliorate e sorpassate, e che la strada da percorrere è quella di un metodo che faccia progredire un uomo da un AFC (SOF) ad un natural pick up artist.