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Failure is the tuition you pay for success.
-Walter Brunell

One of the big issues people have is shouldering social pressure.

The social pressure that comes with approaching, the social pressure that comes with asking personal questions, the social pressure that comes with escalating and closing, and the social pressure that comes with expressing ones self in a way that is different from everyone else.

But this pressure does not really come from society. It comes from within us.

It comes from the fear that we’re not the biggest pimp ever, the fear that we’re no better than the people we laugh at, the people we mock, the people we look down upon. It comes from our ego.

From the desire to protect a false ideology about how special we are. We in the industry are not entirely without fault either. What do we tell people?
Get any girl!
Get ALL the girls!
Real PUAs get 10 out of 10!
Real MEN don’t get rejected!
If you get rejected it’s cause you’re not GOOD enough yet!

Bullshit.

I have students all the time afraid to approach because on an emotional level they view every interaction as a referendum on their stature as a man. But you know what? Real men fail.

The most successful people in the world are the people with the courage and resolve to fail more than anyone else. And they keep failing, for the whole of their lives.

Michael Jordan won six NBA championships, and missed 12,345 shots in the NBA. He lost 26 games at the buzzer, by missing the shot that would have won his team the game.
Barry Bonds hit more home runs than anyone in baseball, he struck out 1539 times.
Thomas Edison famously figured out 999 ways not to make a lightbulb.

To be great at anything you must become a master of failure. Once you are, you keep right on failing, you just stop noticing. With girls, it’s exactly the same. Guys want to get 90 or 95 or 99 or 100 percent of the girls they open. Yeah, right. That sort of expectation is just going to make your anxiety worse.

Instead, start shooting for five percent.

Now some of you my read that and think, “what! I can do better than that now!”
Well, are you with a new hot girl every night?
No?
Then if you can or can’t do better than five percent is irrelevant, cause you’re not going out and trying.

At any decent venue there will be twenty hot girls that come through between ten and two. Hit on them ALL. Get yourself to five percent. Once you’re hitting around there, everything will change. You’ll literally be able to go out any day of the week and bring a hot girl home. The more girls you’re with, the less you’ll care about the outcome with any individual girl, and the more all the girls will start to want you.

Now here’s a tasty tidbit for all you romantics out there. You will be able to get 100 percent of a certain kind of girl. And that’s any girl who’s already a part of your life who sees you swamped with hotties. Girls want what other girls want. So if there’s “one special girl” you’ve got your eye on, the fastest way to guarantee getting her is to go out and fail till you get yourself to five percent.

Now go get rejected by 19 girls!

Till next time guys,
If you don’t know what to say, just say something.
Love ya!
-The Braeden

Hey guys,

This is a post I have got around to writing pretty quickly. I was giving a talk on our bootcamp last weekend and while covering K-closing technique a thought occurred to me: what should a kiss say?

In the movie Hitch, Will Smith says: ‘8/10 women believe the first kiss will tell them everything they need to know about the relationship.’

The words unsaid...

Well while the statistic might not be completely accurate there is certainly truth in it. Just as dancing relates to sex, a kiss can relate to your whole role in a relationship with a woman. What she can expect from a guy both sexually and emotionally.

For instance are you a guy who will lunge forward in the hope he will make the right move? Are you timid to start with and needs some encouragement before finally giving her what she really wants? Are you aggressive and dominant, maybe even to the point of ignoring the signals she is giving you? Or are you be the guy who starts a fire with barely a touch.

What does your kiss say about you?

What are we looking for?

We know what we are aiming for, so how do we make her see fireworks? Bear in mind a few things:

1. Read her actions: what you want is not always what she wants. This is obvious with sex, it is almost more important at this stage as it will communicate that you can be as savvy in the bedroom as you can be in the club, and with that in mind…
2. Do not be afraid to dominate! We tend to talk about being an alpha male, and leading and being dominant is a key feature of this, so why do some men fall down at the kiss? Make sure that you are showing you can give her that masculine presence she needs all the way through!
3. Don’t arrive at the party too late! Take the initiative and don’t wait for her to be giving you IOI’s (indicators of interest) akin to stadium lights before you kiss her. But on that note…
4. Don’t speed. When actually going in for the kiss, which she should know you are doing, don’t be afraid to let some suspense build. It shows sexual confidence that transfers to the bedroom.
5. One type of firework is boring. Just as flowers every birthday or anniversary, or the same move in bed every night kills a relationship, kissing her in the same way each time kills a bit of the passion. Try not to do the same thing repeatedly. Instead vary your method, keep her guessing, and wanting, more.
6. Wait for Christmas to open your present. Don’t be too eager. Back off every now and then, many guys start kissing a girl and don’t slow down or sometimes even stop! This can kill off a vibe so make sure you can keep things at a good pace.

The IOI’s you are looking for so you know when to go in for the kiss are simple and easy to spot, the easiest being her looking at your lips. Playing with her hair/neck, blushing and having dilated pupils are all good indicators as well.

Everything we crave

Technique

Now everyone has their own techniques that they like to use when going in for the kiss, I myself have a few that I teach to clients, but what about actually kissing her? Follow these few tips to keep these moments varied and explosive:

1. Kiss her with your eyes first. This is a standard, before you kiss her for the first time let her know what you are about to do by slowing down and looking at her like you are going to kiss her. Tilt your head a bit; maybe lift her chin up a fraction, let her anticipate the moment.
2. Foreplay is important. Trace certain features with a caressing finger before kissing her. The jaw line, cheek, and especially the lips are all great for building up to the big moment.
3. Only one thing should get stiff. Relax is a big bit of advice! If you are too stiff and rigid with your kiss then it doesn’t quite scream ‘I am cool with this’ It translates that you are quite nervous and therefore probably don’t get to this point with chicks much.
4. Get primal. Tug her hair lightly while in a more intense kiss to really kick on the primal level and tap into your alpha male caveman! Bear in mind it should be lightly, unless she is into that sort of thing, in which case you will find out pretty quickly if she is.
5. Biting got Dracula laid. Biting her lower lip lightly adds a very sensual, but dominating edge to a kiss, but again, if she is into the painful side of sex, you will get back better than you got!
6. Clean your ears. And hope she cleans hers! The ear is an on show erogenous zone, so make use of it! Whether by giving it a gentle kiss, lick, bite or (a big favourite of mine) just breathing on it, make sure you utilize this area.
7. Control the French in you. While using a bit of tongue is great, don’t overdo it and go for it every time. Some of the most sexual kisses can be something as simple as looking into her eyes and giving her a brief, but sensual kiss before pulling away. Deprive her a little bit.
8. Lingering feelings take time to go away. The lips are an incredibly sensitive area of the body, so give both of you a treat and after you kiss her softly, or even before you kiss her at all let your lips just brush over hers. The sensation is highly sexual and yet deprives her of full satisfaction.

So that brings me to the end of another huge post. I hope that this will be of use to some of you. As usual please leave a comment telling me what you think :-)

Until next time!

Karl

You can have all the lines (or the booze) in the world but that’s not the real reason girls go home with guys. Girls hook up with guys (or girls) because they think they’re going to be great in bed. Makes sense, right? Why else would we catch a bus across town to see you, sneak into your parents’ house or duck into the stall of a bar bathroom with you unless we thought we were going to get something really satisfying out of it? Here are my top three ways to scream “sex god” even if you’re secretly more Steve Jobs than Ron Jeremy.

1. Establish & Maintain Eye Contact

Oddly enough, we seem more sincere when we hold eye contact and subtly move in towards a person when we’re saying things. Next time you’re in front of a mirror try saying “There are so many things I’d love to do to you,” in two ways: one, moving away from the mirror, and looking around. The other maintaining your gaze and gradually moving in. You’ll see the second option makes you seem way more like you might be telling the truth about that time you made the two cheerleaders beg for more.

Top tip: Adjust the angle of your head to be slightly tilted when you’re saying these lines. This is the position we move into when we’re about to kiss someone, and it seems less confrontational than meeting someone’s gaze head on.

2. Utilize a James Bond Tone Of Voice

You know in the romcoms when Hugh Grant splutters and mumbles his way through declaring his love for a girl, then she is overcome with love and goes home with him? Yeah, that would never happen in real life. Why? Because so much of your sexual confidence is suggested through your vocal tone. Hastily spoken, high pitched speech or mumbling under your breath all says that you’re not comfortable with what you’re saying. So next time you want to say something truly filthy, take your time over it. Slow down. Pause. Spend ages telling her how she would look great in your bed: and she’ll believe you have the chutzpah to pull it (her dress) off.

3. Postpone The Kiss For Gentle Touches

To take the lead in bed you need to show that you’re comfortable with touching a woman. You need to seem totally relaxed in stroking her face, sliding your hand around the small of her back and kissing her neck. And I mean seem. Plenty of guys aren’t that “touchy feely” naturally and feel awkward at first touching a girl. The problem is if you’re nervous and uncertain this feeling will transfer to your date. So you need to fake it until you make it and show how you’re at ease with touching her. PUA Training’s three tips to pull this off are:

• Don’t look where you touch: It looks unnatural and makes you seem uneasy.

• Don’t linger: Touches should start light, gentle and brief then get more intense when she gives you the green light by not responding negatively to your moves.

• Don’t go from 0-60: Go straight in for the kiss and you’ll probably get knocked back. Start with a light touch to her arm with the back of your hand, move onto shoulders, then her neck. Whispering in her ear will get a much better response than going straight for the kill.

Work on these non-verbal indicators that you’re a sexual, confident guy and let your moves (not your words) do the talking.