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Hey guys,

As you will have seen, i spend A LOT of time out in the streets and in shopping malls amongst other places walking up to Attractive women, making them laugh and enjoy themselves then finding out what they enjoy doing and finally exchanging numbers with them.

This is a simple process and it WORKS!

You see, i have done over 50 thousand approaches in the last 5 years and less than 2% of the girls i meet flake, if they can’t answer because they are in class or a meeting they text me to say they can’t speak to me right now but they will call me later.

How do i manage to get hot women to want to see me again?

Just by projecting positivity and connecting on an emotional level! Yes, you have to find things in common by asking questions that give her a chance to express her interests and then you connect on that topic.

On Sunday i number closed 2 models!

I met the first one on a train (I am drawn to attractive women and I spend many hours every week finding them). I asked her if we were on the train to London which was also the train she wanted and it turned out that we were on the wrong train.

We got on the right train and connected on a very deep level. I really enjoyed talking to her but she had a boyfriend and she was a few years older than me so no biggie, i still got her number and I have just got off the phone with her. She knows what i do and things it’s really cool… most girls do.

The second girl was a German model and i met her in the same place i meet a majority of models. After soooo many approaches i can tell where people are from by the way they dress and if they’re girls by the way they look. So i walked up to this model and said “Hey, are you from Germany.”

We carried on chatting for about 10 minutes and she was on her way to meet some friends so i thought i would say good bye to her but she insisted that i meet her friends…

I meet her friends and it’s like she is parading me around like her boyfried lol

I thought shame, the poor girl is quite desperate lol

We are meeting up tonight to go salsa dancing which is my standard day 2 activity. I get to escalate touch and show her that i am a fun guy and then i will get her back to my apartment to see some photographs and then i will F close her, shower, walk her to the train station and see what my other girls are up to.

So, being friendly and connecting on some of her interests and then having some interests of your own that you are passionate about is the key to getting women to want to meet up with you.

Getting girls to want to be with you

Enjoy and keep approaching.

Richard Macilwaine

Any guy who’s in the habit of approaching knows that getting a girls phone number is no guarantee of anything. It’s not even a bloody guarantee that the girl will speak to you again, let alone go on a date with you.

Think about it. A girl giving a friendly guy her phone number after a little conversation is hardly the biggest commitment in the world, is it? You might feel like an interaction went great, and the next day when you try and call her up for a date she gets all hesitant about making any definite plans with you, giving you lots of “umms” “ahhs” and “maybes”. Put simply, you might as well have been the ticket inspector who stamped her ticket on the train last tuesday. This can be surprising (and confusing) at first you when you are not use to it, but trust me, it happens way more than you think. Needless to say, I have had my fair share.

But most often the problem isn’t what you did on the phone. The problem was earlier on, during your first interaction. So today, I want to give you a couple of tips on getting SOLID phone numbers:

1. Build some rapport -

Comfort-building routines can help if you don’t feel comfortable flying manually right now. Some guys like to learn The Cube. It’s a fun cold-reading routine that girls remember long after the conversation. I had a girl I did this on within 5 five minutes of meeting her, and 6 months later she still remembered her reading and said that it was doing this that made me unique in her eyes from the other guys who talked to her that night. So it does work, although its just as possible to build comfort naturally once you get the hang of it.

Teasing and being playful with her are great for attraction, but remember to spike her interest with something of substance. Any questions or observations that help you delve into her personality, albeit in a fun way (I.e. without being generic and dull) will make her remember you the next morning

2. Give her a reason to want to pick up the phone to you -

You can always say to her that you have to go, but you’ve got something really cool to tell her when you call her. You can think of what it is later on! Make sure when she picks up the phone you have lots of energy in your voice and launch into some fun question or routine straight away, or comment on things you talked about when you met her.

Example - You talked about films the night before. When she picks up the phone say “Hey, I’m just looking at my DVD’s picking out a film for us to watch, which do you prefer, horror or comedy?” Being presumptuous like this shows internal confidence.

3. Make a plan before you get her phone number

The plan does not have to be exact, but if she mentions she’s new in town and wants to see an art gallery, say “Oh then you HAVE to come to the Tate Gallery Exhibition next Monday. That’s our trial date sorted. Let me take your phone number.” Now the next time you call her you’ll have something that she’s already expecting. Remember: Make sure you talk up and sell wherever you’re taking her. And make it clear that you two are both going, and that you’re just going to call her to confirm the details.

Please feel free to email me at matt@puatraining.com

Speak soon my friends!

Matthew H – Master Trainer & Confidence Expert

Hey guys hows it going.

I am going to put some videos up closer to xmas/new years as little present from me to you so watch out.

However, I am going to write this blog as a diary entry.

Time: 21:14

Date: 13/11/2008

Location: My Apartment

I am here with a very close female friend of mine, she is profoundly attractive, not because she models for Lee Stafford, Tony & Guy and Tesco, but because she has a childish sense of humour, a warm heart and she is ambitious in her legal career. These are some of the qualities that I find attractive as after gaming for a long time now, I have continuously found myself constantly coming to the same conclusion: ‘as important as looks are, the qualities that I now value above all are those that one can only portray once getting to know the person’.

Who is this person I am with right now, well she is an ex-gf pre-any game I had, who opened me. We broke up and lost contact. Recently, I bumped in to her and I made it my intention to form a relationship, starting from square one as friends….Why? because she was fun to hangout with and that is what is most important to me; leading a healthy lifestyle, adding value to people’s life who I care for.

As well as gaming, I can’t stress this enough, start adding value to people and expecting nothing in return – be the high value guy who isn’t in gaming mode 24/7.

Stay kool and keep gaming.

Your Friendly, Neighbourhood PUA Dharam

As a guy we always want to think we are the best that the girl has ever had. As men we never like to lose and we have a big pride issue. So we always feel threatened by other guys. Well guys, stop doing that! You won’t always be the best kisser, you won’t always have the best build and you won’t always have the biggest manhood.

But here is the great news. You can make it one of the most memorable, the most special and ultimately, the best.

These are the factors that girls have told me that makes a guy amazing.
 

Kissing:

We have NO IDEA how important the kiss is to a woman. This is the start of the sexual experience, so it is very important to have a good start. Remember a woman’s sex organics are 80% in her mind. If you’re going to start dating or having more sex, you are going to kiss more then you will ever have sex, so if you’re not a good kisser?!

Then there will already be a big a part of her sexual tension for you gone.

So what makes a good kisser?

Well firstly, it’s called kissing!! Not tongue wars. No womean likes it when a man sticks his tongue down a women’s throat. The tongue is there to make the kiss even hotter and and more sexual. Another mistake guys make? Is really wet kisses. A woman prefers soft gentle kisses. She doesn’t want to feel that she has just had a face shower. While some of you guys think, ‘I don’t do that’ the scary reality is that woman think that only 40% of guys are REALLY good kissers. Another mistake guys make? Before you go to bed, take a quick 5 minutes to have a shave. A lot of women have sensitive skin and if you start kissing their neck, they will look like they have a rash on their neck the next morning. Not that attractive and also quite embarrassing. 

In my experience of kissing, I have always found that softer is better. With the exception of really rough sex… a completely different story. The best advice I can give you is to look at the size of her lips, the fuller her lips the more pouty you need to make your lips. If she has very slim lips you need to make your lips a little more stiff. 

Guys if there is anything that I want you to take from this article, is spend more time on kissing. When you can spend 20 min on her lips and don’t need to go anywhere else on her body, that will be one of the most passionate and biggest turn ones for her.

 Now least talk about breast
 

From all the women that I have spoken to, I have NEVER found a woman

that has told me that she loves her breasts been squeezed. All of them told me that they liked t when a guy softly kiss or stroke it. Some women have very sensitive breasts and some women don’t. On a study of 500 women, the findings were that women with smaller breasts are more sensitive and get turned on more than women with bigger breasts. If you find out that a women has very sensitive breasts and she likes them being touched? Well it’s great, because the longer you spend time on them and while having sex, it will make it so much more exciting for her. Just like going down on a women, tease the breast. Go on the side of the breast first and then around it and only then go for the nipple. This makes it so much more sexual and it builds up the tension. Also I have been told that some guys tend to bite a girls nipple and that hurts some times. Just let the teeth slightly brush against it, this is your best option.

 Take care of a women’s breast, this will make you an amazing lover if a women has sensitive breast. Hope this helps guys. 

What next?
 

Now before I go on, I need to tell you that in my experience with sex one of the most important things is that it needs to go smoothly! This is one of the biggest reasons why you give her something to sleep in. Firstly because of comfort, but also because of getting off her sleep wear of is much easier then her clubbing clothes.

Also a BIG fact is the condom. If I ever give you great advice it’s this: Keep the condom at an arms length away. DON’T KEEP IT IN THE BOX!!!!!!! So many girls told me that it is one of the biggest turn off’s if he has to first go and get it in his car or ask his house mate if he’s got one. Or he is struggling to get the box open. The trick is to leave it in your side cupboard or even under the side of your bed.

The trick is to get everything going SMOOTHLY!!! You don’t want to break the mood.

Next week I will go a bit more into technique.

Hope you enjoyed my Article guys? Take care Gerry.

Women want men in their lives.  It’s their feminine instinct.                                            

Like in my last post, the woman was in an emotional state, but she was going too fast and trying to connect to anything the situation presented in an effort to lock the man in.  It is her way of wanting him to prove that he loves her, so she can feel connected and thereby reduce her fear of isolation or deprivation.  If he does this she will feel calm, loved, appreciated, grateful and supported.  If he doesn’t do this she will feel anxious, sad and unloved.

Luckily, Female fear stimulates a protective aggression in the males of most species of social animals.  On an emotional level for a female, it feels like the only real protection from harm and isolation is intimate connection with a male.  Emotional talk is the native language of females. 

This results from an almost entirely unconscious process called emotional attunement.  To understand the power of emotional attunement you only have to consider its survival advantage.  Sharing emotions gives us multiple eyes, ears and noses with which to sense danger and opportunity.  When one member of the tribe (pack, herd, flock, or pride) becomes aggressive, frightened or interested, the others reflexively tune to the same emotion with more or less the same behavioural motivation.

Emotional attunement is why a woman’s choice of words has little to do with the success of her intentions.  Humans bonded, cooperated, and communicated by emotional attunement many thousands of years before we had verbal language.  Our vocalisations then were the same as those of social animals, serving primarily as a tuning fork to get the group reattuned to the emotion of the moment.  In humans, tone of voice and subcommunication now serves this purpose.

All of this means that, in general, it’s easier to form a close connection with a girl.  She follows you around, looking for it.

So condition yourself to notice how a woman’s feeling when she says something.  Maybe she creates her own meaning.  Because sometimes she just wants someone to understand her.  And someone to make her feel alive.

Alex Street Kid

Hey guys,

It’s all well and good getting a cute giggle from a girl after a perfectly executed routine. But there’s something I want you to remember today gentleman. Sex.

A lot of guys struggle find it hard taking things to the next level. And the reason is this: They do’t communicate to the woman that they are a sexual man. These men don’t talk about sex, or they’re scared to ‘reveal’ to women that they want it. Society has trained us this way; politeness tells us that a gentleman will not talk about this kind of thing so openly, least of all with a woman he has just met.

But seriously, you have to be very careful about being too shy and prudish about this kind of thing. A lot of guys I know who are stuck in the “Platonic friend zone” are in that position because the women they talk to don’t see them as a sexual man. Most likely if you ask these girls about the guy who’s stuck in friend zone they’ll say “I COULDN’T imagine having sex with him, we’re too close, and beside that it would just be so weird!” Translation: She doesn’t see him as a sexworthy guy.

I’m not saying you have to be some kind of obnoxious chauvinist about all this and get all one-track minded about sex. But there ARE little things to can do to spice up your conversation and make it more sexually charged. It might be as small as simply acknowledging that you’re attracted to a girl. When I was first introduced to my current girlfriend the first thing out of my mouth was “You’re pretty”. Does this sound like a good opener? Not on paper, but simply communicating this kind of attraction in a non-needy way is powerful.

Or another example, a friend and I were having lunch yesterday when a mutual girl friend of ours comes over to say hello. Half way through the conversation I got a bit restless and decided to cut the tension “NICE leggings, what colour underwear are you wearing with them?” All the while making a funny curious face, followed by a cheeky grin. She giggles and says “I can’t remember”. I say “Show me them” Still being playful. So in the middle of this sandwich bar this girl is reaching into her skirt and pulling the top of her underwear over her skirt just to qualify herself and because I’m being playful during her boring routine day.

Find ways you can sexually charge conversation and you’ll find the girls you meet will treat you much differently. Remember, if you lead with your attitude, the girl will follow. If you’re relaxed and fun when it comes to sex and don’t put huge pressure on it, neither will she. If you’re all nervous and prudish, be prepared to wait a while before she wants you in the bedroom. The choice is yours.

Please feel free to email me at matt@puatraining.com

Speak soon my friends!

Matthew H – Master Trainer

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In my post The natural art of communication I described this art as interaction with another human being at the level of meaning. One way of thinking about meaning is in terms of relevance. A meaningful communication is relevant both to its initiator and its recipient. For many guys starting out in pick-up, their fundamental problem is that they are just not relevant – in a sexual way – to the girls they interact with. What pick-up teaches a guy initially is how to say things which are relevant to a girl. Because these things are modelled from men who are attractive to women – which the beginner guy is not yet – they are relevant to the girl, but not relevant to the guy – in other words they are not truthful representations of who he is. The idea is that over time, the guy gradually aligns himself with the HB-relevant things he is saying until they are relevant (truthful) also to him - problem solved. For many guys starting out this is exactly their expectation: they learn attractive things to say to a girl and then through a feedback mechanism they just become attractive themselves.

So where’s the flaw? Why do I hear things like “Game will get you as many girls as you want, but it will never make you happy?” and why do I see smart, successful PUAs out of the blue erasing their entire archive of posts and denouncing pick-up as the work of Satan? I believe the error is in supposing that human interaction can be modelled as a finite set of possibilities. It’s an easy error to make – rather than actually learning to understand what a girl means, you instead learn a winning strategy – a sequence of moves that gets you from A to B in any circumstance. But there are no winning strategies for infinite possibilities, so the model is necessarily an approximation. That means you use a generic model to get a generic girl, and you end up having a generic relationship or generic one-night stand with her. The lingering unhappiness in some of the most prolific PUAs is that in denying the possibility of a girl’s uniqueness, they also deny their own uniqueness; their life ceases to have any relevance to them.

Before I close, I wanted to add a short coda on how this discussion relates to the cult of teacher in the pick-up community. The old proverb goes that if you give a man a fish you feed him for a day but if you teach him how to fish you feed him for a lifetime. Guys who come into the pick-up community are like starving cats hungry for a fish; and there are plenty of teachers out there who’ll give them a fish, and then upon the release of their next product give them another fish, and so on. And the students will keep on coming back for more, because they’re hungry, and because it’s in the teacher’s interests to keep them hungry. But when he’s no longer able to feed them, or when another teacher somewhere else offers a tastier fish, they move on and in some cases renounce him, and rightly so because he’s been deceiving them. For me, the best teachers are the ones who teach you that they have nothing to teach you because you already know everything there is to know, and for that you might actually like them.

A dark snail takes it upon itself to jump high up into the air and land on top of a cloud. From the cloud the snail observes a roman gladiator being cheered by his fans. The snail is playing sonic the hedgehog on its mega drive.

The snail of evil would like to tell you the story of the slim, average looking man who stood outside the Roman Colisium talking trash about the warrios fighting in there. His trash talk was overheard by the ruler of the empire, a savage beast of a fighter himself. The ruler of the empire comes out to see the man so that he can laugh at him and send him on his way. The man is told to go home, unless he wants to actually fight with the champions of the Colisium. The man tells the ruler that he doesn’t want to fight anybody and he does wish to go home, but if the ruler does send him in to fight that he will kill them all. The ruler laughs at the man and begins to explain to him how quickly he would be brutally murdered by the gladiators and as he is halfway through his sentance he is cut off by the average looking man and told to ’shhh’. The ruler simply cannot believe it. He cannot believe it. Really he cannot. LOL. Everyone laughs at the average man and then he tells them to ’shhh’ also. He is benigning to smuster people off. They aren’t happy. He is even making his face look a little bit like mcolly kulkin which is really pissing them off. He gets ordered to go into the colisium and fight with the gladiators. After hours of grueling fights he manages to kill them all, including the lions. The audience cheer him and as they do he looks at them and tells them to ’shhh’, and they do. He leaves the colisium and on his way out he barges right past the ruler and out of the door.