covered in this section of the webinar: negs, neg-fights, when to lay off the negging, body language, body angles, and torque

Responses to the Self-hypnosis audio have been brilliant - thanks to all of you who have emailed me or posted comments (if you want to listen you can do so here ). You can download the file here

A few of you have asked questions so I’ve decided to write some responses to answer a few of them……….

Noel asked “Does NLP / Hypnosis work with everyone?”

The thing to realise is that NLP and hypnosis use thought processes and patterns and are already part of peoples’ functioning and, in fact, most of them are modelled from people who are doing thing or being a particular way. Let me give you an example:

People sometimes say to me they don’t know if their visualisations are powerful enough and I ask “Have you ever experienced anxiety?”. The thing is, to experience anxiety a person has to imagine something happening in the future and usually make a picture of some event or situation that they wouldn’t want. So, firstly, this means they have the ability not only to make pictures internally, but also to construct pictures of things that haven’t even happened yet. And, they are able to make the pictures so vivid and lifelike that they feel real feelings (anxiety) as a result of them. So, this means a person has the ability to create pictures that are so real they feel actual feelings now. That’s quite a skill. And, of course, if they can make pictures that make them feel one way they can make them feel another way.

Regarding hypnosis, then people enter trance states all the time. A simple way to consider trance is that it is a state characterised by a narrow focus of attention, everyday examples are driving trances, have you ever been driving and absorbed in your own thougts or ’in your own world’ and nearly missed an exit or junction? The TV trance is another, someone may not even hear their name being called because their attention is focused solely on the TV, they may even have their hand dangling in mid air holding the remote. When someone is experiencing approach anxiety, they may go into trance and literally go ‘blank’ so it seems like there’s nothing there.

So, the question isn’t really whether people can experience trance, it’s more whether the trances they are experiencing are serving them well, and, if not then hypnosis is one way to change this.

Linking to the question from Alif Aka Myth. You say you can’t seem to get the audio to work for you, my question is, How do you know it’s not working? But, more importantly, how would you know if it was?

A question to ask yourself is “Do you really want to understand how to be a great pua or do you want to BE a great pua?”

The aim of the audio is NOT that you consciously know what you’ve modelled from someone else. You can do that by observing them and analysing what they do. The aim of this is to learn unconsciously (which means you don’t know what is it you are learning, you just discover that you have) - which is how you learned as a child, you never consciously set out one day to learn to walk and analysed your progress as you went along. In fact, if you had it would probably have been the very thing that would have stopped you learning it.

I’m not suggesting that analysis and logical understanding aren’t helpful, only that this audio is about helping you find an alternative way of learning. We have been conditioned by our society that we must understand things before we can do them which is sometimes a very unhelpful way to work. Do you really want to understand how to be a great pua or do you want to be a great pua? If you actually want to understand it (which I would suggest only really has a benefit if you’re a trainer and want to teach others) then analysis will be useful, but if you just want to model someone  and be how they are then this will help you massively. Here’s one of the emails I received….

Hey Ben,

This week has been pretty interesting, friday night i applied non verbal opening / forcing a IOI - followed with a direct approach straight into a kiss - the rest was easy. Saturday was more of the same - kissed a girl i was out with some mates - after lots of strong eye contact, i walked up - took hold of her belt and gently pulled her into me - kiss kiss…. the come to bed eyes are improving haha - i wasn’t sure why this side of things is suddenly clicking - then i remembered doing your audio hypnosis! and using Gambler / Maverick as a model!

many thanks   Dan

Now, I’m sure there will be some cynical people out there who say, well, maybe these things would have happened anyway. And, maybe Dan would have done them without using hypnotic modelling. Only you will really know what effects it has after you’ve listened to it and, it may be that it’s only some time afterwards when you find yourself being different that you make a connection with that experience. Feel free to let me know your feedback.

As you will have seen, i spend A LOT of time out in the streets and in shopping malls amongst other places walking up to Attractive women, making them laugh and enjoy themselves then finding out what they enjoy doing and finally exchanging numbers with them.

This is a simple process and it WORKS!

You see, i have done over 50 thousand approaches in the last 5 years and less than 2% of the girls i meet flake, if they can’t answer because they are in class or a meeting they text me to say they can’t speak to me right now but they will call me later.

How do i manage to get hot women to want to see me again?

Just by projecting positivity and connecting on an emotional level! Yes, you have to find things in common by asking questions that give her a chance to express her interests and then you connect on that topic.

On Sunday i number closed 2 models!

I met the first one on a train (I am drawn to attractive women and I spend many hours every week finding them). I asked her if we were on the train to London which was also the train she wanted and it turned out that we were on the wrong train.

We got on the right train and connected on a very deep level. I really enjoyed talking to her but she had a boyfriend and she was a few years older than me so no biggie, i still got her number and I have just got off the phone with her. She knows what i do and things it’s really cool… most girls do.

The second girl was a German model and i met her in the same place i meet a majority of models. After soooo many approaches i can tell where people are from by the way they dress and if they’re girls by the way they look. So i walked up to this model and said “Hey, are you from Germany.”

We carried on chatting for about 10 minutes and she was on her way to meet some friends so i thought i would say good bye to her but she insisted that i meet her friends…

I meet her friends and it’s like she is parading me around like her boyfried lol

I thought shame, the poor girl is quite desperate lol

We are meeting up tonight to go salsa dancing which is my standard day 2 activity. I get to escalate touch and show her that i am a fun guy and then i will get her back to my apartment to see some photographs and then i will F close her, shower, walk her to the train station and see what my other girls are up to.

So, being friendly and connecting on some of her interests and then having some interests of your own that you are passionate about is the key to getting women to want to meet up with you.

Getting girls to want to be with you

Enjoy and keep approaching.

Richard Macilwaine

Now I still have the highs but I don’t have the lows.  I’m insulated from the bad stuff.

So what’s different now? I have some very good non-PUA friends who I enjoy spending time with.  Having non-PUA friends means going out just to have fun vs just going out to “game”.  I have lots of female friends.  People can support me if I need it, people can raise my mood if I need it.  I also have lots of options.  I can come out of a relationship and there are a bunch of girls who i’ve kept in touch with lightly on facebook or meeting now and again and they are girls that I can date and meet with.  This means I never go back to zero anymore, even the worst that can happen isn’t so bad.  I’m definitely never going back to my Cambridge days and i’m never even going back to the me of a couple years ago.

As another benefit to this lifestyle, things go bad less often.  Female friends give you better game, a good social life brings a good state most of the time and gives you better game, cool friends who have great qualities give you better game because you model their skills.   Because you have more going on and more power over your situation you are less likely to be week, needy or have one-itis.  You keep the girl because your behaviour and lifestyle is attractive.

So there it is, but how do you get there?  For me, all that I needed to do was shift my perspective, I didn’t need any more tricks or techniques.  I just decided that if I met any girl that I enjoyed talking to I would “friend close” her, if I met a cool guy or even saw one in the club I’d be friendly and make a connection.  It took literally a couple of nights to get a social cirlce of a few key people which has stayed with me ever since.   You can apply game in many ways and going for sex is the narrowest possible application of what really is a “social skill”.  The wider application brings for a great lifestyle, great friends, better game, AND even more sex! If you are in the situation I used to be in, I hope this helps.  If you are just learning game, change your course slightly to incorporate the above.

-G

Just wanted to talk about “Attitude,”  as the way you think about people and the women you are approaching will affect the way you feel and the energy you project towards the girls and your overall performance. This is important because if you can make people around you feel good… they will love your company and want you  around more.

Here are a few thoughts i have about women and people and these are the thoughts that enable me to attract women quickly and easily…

1. Think of the target you are about to approach as if she is your best friend and you have known here for ages.

If you do this and you are able to trick yourslef into thinking/pretending that she is a friend, you will feel more relaxed and comfortable… why? Because you feel relaxed and comfortable around your girl friends don’t you.

2. You are making her day better! The point of every approach is to make her smile, make her enjoy her day just a little more and make her like being approached by guys.

3. Remember that she is just trying to find happiness and love just like everyone else so don’t judge her! Be nice towards her and treat her with respect but don’t treat her like a porcelain dole! Treat her like you treat your friends and talk to her the same way.

4. Be interested in who she is, what she enjoys doing and reward her for being nice and talking to you. When she tells you something, repeat it back to her (so she knows you are listening to her)

5. Treat her the way you would like to be treated, imagine you were in her shoes… how would you like to be approached by someone?

6. Talk to all the girls even if they don’t look like models, talk to every single person you have an opportunity to talk to and watch your people skills grow. Talk to the girl at the counter, have a laugh with the bus driver, get into the habit of being a guy who overflows with positive thoughts towards others.

You will be happier for it… when was the last time you did a nice thing for a complete stranger? Make it a habit every day to do at least one nice thing for a random stranger and watch how it make you feel good about yourself.

Keep approaching and I’m always here if you want some personalised help. 121’s are the best way to improve your game and there are lots of trainers on the site to pick from

Seriously, if you want to make massive progress today and not in the months to come, get some personalised help and ask your coach exactly what you want to learn and get him to demo!

Keep approaching!

I am going to put some videos up closer to xmas/new years as little present from me to you so watch out.

However, I am going to write this blog as a diary entry.

Time: 21:14

Date: 13/11/2008

Location: My Apartment

I am here with a very close female friend of mine, she is profoundly attractive, not because she models for Lee Stafford, Tony & Guy and Tesco, but because she has a childish sense of humour, a warm heart and she is ambitious in her legal career. These are some of the qualities that I find attractive as after gaming for a long time now, I have continuously found myself constantly coming to the same conclusion: ‘as important as looks are, the qualities that I now value above all are those that one can only portray once getting to know the person’.

Who is this person I am with right now, well she is an ex-gf pre-any game I had, who opened me. We broke up and lost contact. Recently, I bumped in to her and I made it my intention to form a relationship, starting from square one as friends….Why? because she was fun to hangout with and that is what is most important to me; leading a healthy lifestyle, adding value to people’s life who I care for.

As well as gaming, I can’t stress this enough, start adding value to people and expecting nothing in return – be the high value guy who isn’t in gaming mode 24/7.

Stay kool and keep gaming.

Your Friendly, Neighbourhood PUA Dharam

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But here is the great news. You can make it one of the most memorable, the most special and ultimately, the best.

These are the factors that girls have told me that makes a guy amazing.
 

Kissing:

We have NO IDEA how important the kiss is to a woman. This is the start of the sexual experience, so it is very important to have a good start. Remember a woman’s sex organics are 80% in her mind. If you’re going to start dating or having more sex, you are going to kiss more then you will ever have sex, so if you’re not a good kisser?!

Then there will already be a big a part of her sexual tension for you gone.

So what makes a good kisser?

Well firstly, it’s called kissing!! Not tongue wars. No womean likes it when a man sticks his tongue down a women’s throat. The tongue is there to make the kiss even hotter and and more sexual. Another mistake guys make? Is really wet kisses. A woman prefers soft gentle kisses. She doesn’t want to feel that she has just had a face shower. While some of you guys think, ‘I don’t do that’ the scary reality is that woman think that only 40% of guys are REALLY good kissers. Another mistake guys make? Before you go to bed, take a quick 5 minutes to have a shave. A lot of women have sensitive skin and if you start kissing their neck, they will look like they have a rash on their neck the next morning. Not that attractive and also quite embarrassing. 

In my experience of kissing, I have always found that softer is better. With the exception of really rough sex… a completely different story. The best advice I can give you is to look at the size of her lips, the fuller her lips the more pouty you need to make your lips. If she has very slim lips you need to make your lips a little more stiff. 

Guys if there is anything that I want you to take from this article, is spend more time on kissing. When you can spend 20 min on her lips and don’t need to go anywhere else on her body, that will be one of the most passionate and biggest turn ones for her.

 Now least talk about breast
 

From all the women that I have spoken to, I have NEVER found a woman

that has told me that she loves her breasts been squeezed. All of them told me that they liked t when a guy softly kiss or stroke it. Some women have very sensitive breasts and some women don’t. On a study of 500 women, the findings were that women with smaller breasts are more sensitive and get turned on more than women with bigger breasts. If you find out that a women has very sensitive breasts and she likes them being touched? Well it’s great, because the longer you spend time on them and while having sex, it will make it so much more exciting for her. Just like going down on a women, tease the breast. Go on the side of the breast first and then around it and only then go for the nipple. This makes it so much more sexual and it builds up the tension. Also I have been told that some guys tend to bite a girls nipple and that hurts some times. Just let the teeth slightly brush against it, this is your best option.

 Take care of a women’s breast, this will make you an amazing lover if a women has sensitive breast. Hope this helps guys. 

What next?
 

Now before I go on, I need to tell you that in my experience with sex one of the most important things is that it needs to go smoothly! This is one of the biggest reasons why you give her something to sleep in. Firstly because of comfort, but also because of getting off her sleep wear of is much easier then her clubbing clothes.

Also a BIG fact is the condom. If I ever give you great advice it’s this: Keep the condom at an arms length away. DON’T KEEP IT IN THE BOX!!!!!!! So many girls told me that it is one of the biggest turn off’s if he has to first go and get it in his car or ask his house mate if he’s got one. Or he is struggling to get the box open. The trick is to leave it in your side cupboard or even under the side of your bed.

The trick is to get everything going SMOOTHLY!!! You don’t want to break the mood.

Next week I will go a bit more into technique.

Hope you enjoyed my Article guys? Take care Gerry.

Like in my last post, the woman was in an emotional state, but she was going too fast and trying to connect to anything the situation presented in an effort to lock the man in.  It is her way of wanting him to prove that he loves her, so she can feel connected and thereby reduce her fear of isolation or deprivation.  If he does this she will feel calm, loved, appreciated, grateful and supported.  If he doesn’t do this she will feel anxious, sad and unloved.

Luckily, Female fear stimulates a protective aggression in the males of most species of social animals.  On an emotional level for a female, it feels like the only real protection from harm and isolation is intimate connection with a male.  Emotional talk is the native language of females. 

This results from an almost entirely unconscious process called emotional attunement.  To understand the power of emotional attunement you only have to consider its survival advantage.  Sharing emotions gives us multiple eyes, ears and noses with which to sense danger and opportunity.  When one member of the tribe (pack, herd, flock, or pride) becomes aggressive, frightened or interested, the others reflexively tune to the same emotion with more or less the same behavioural motivation.

Emotional attunement is why a woman’s choice of words has little to do with the success of her intentions.  Humans bonded, cooperated, and communicated by emotional attunement many thousands of years before we had verbal language.  Our vocalisations then were the same as those of social animals, serving primarily as a tuning fork to get the group reattuned to the emotion of the moment.  In humans, tone of voice and subcommunication now serves this purpose.

All of this means that, in general, it’s easier to form a close connection with a girl.  She follows you around, looking for it.

So condition yourself to notice how a woman’s feeling when she says something.  Maybe she creates her own meaning.  Because sometimes she just wants someone to understand her.  And someone to make her feel alive.

Alex Street Kid