How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back (Even If She Hates You And Is Seeing Another Guy)

In just a moment, I’m going to show you how to get your ex girlfriend back… so buckle up, because there’s a lot to cover.

But first, here’s what I used to get my lady back and I highly suggest you do the same dude, before it’s too late…

Shot of my girl taken from her phone and the system I used to get her back.

If you recently split up with your girlfriend then you’re probably hurting REAL bad right now. You feel sick to your stomach, with no energy, you can’t be bothered to see anyone and you just want to be left alone.

How do I know this?

Well I’ve been there dude.

I know the pain you’re going through right now and I know that it won’t stop for a LOOOOONG time.

Even if she dumped you months ago… heck even a year ago, that pain… just isn’t going away and it will slowly ruin your life in every way possible unless you do something about it.

Sure you can carry on with your life… bang a few new girls at a party, go out with your friends and try to forget about the girl you lost.

OR you can use proven techniques that thousands of guys are using right now to get their girlfriend back fast.

I’m talking within a few short weeks.

Sound good? Well it is bro.

So let’s get started.

There are a few areas of “getting your ex girlfriend back” which I want to cover, so by all means skip to the section that makes most sense to your current situation.

Situation 1: Straight after a breakup

It’s been a few days, weeks, maybe even a month and the wound is still raw… now what do you do? Well you need to let her know that you’re not messing. Here’s what to do:

  • Understand why she left you – The first step is to understand why she dumped you in the first place dude! What was she saying to you before the breakup? Were there any signs? Did she say why she didn’t like or love you anymore?
  • Leave it at least 2 weeks – Don’t be needy or act desperate, it’s not going to help you. Play your cards close to your chest and don’t contact her for at least 2 weeks. Delete her number if you need to, so you’re not tempted (obviously write it down first).
  • Get back in touch – After a couple of weeks, get in touch either with a text or a Facebook message. Say something friendly, maybe even inject a little humour. Something like “Hey, so I got the job… (yay for me) starting in a week” fancy a celebratory coffee? No kisses or desperate talk.
  • Keep it casual – Always meet up with her in the day for lunch or coffee so it’s casual, like you’re meeting a friend. This will make her think that you’re not sexually interested in her.
  • Meet up again – Keep meeting up with her casually for a few weeks to a few months. Keep the conversations light, friendly and nothing to do with breaking up. Make it look like you’re really happy and moving on with your life.
  • Go in for the kill – After several casual meetups, invite her along on a night out with your friends or say to her that you’re going to be somewhere and she should come along. Then when you see her, you’re both drunk and you can be way more sexual.

The key to remember here is that you’re laying down the important groundwork with the casual meetups.

Then on the night you meet her and you’ve both been drinking, you can be a little more sexual and flirty… then you can drop in a get back together line… “What do you think about us seeing each other again?”.

Situation 2: When she has a boyfriend

This is probably the worst of the bunch, but not impossible to come back from. Let’s say that you broke up, it’s been a few months, maybe even a year and you’ve heard through friends that she’s got a boyfriend (perhaps you even saw it on Facebook which would really suck).

It’s time for you to go into beast mode my friend…

  • Be a better you – It’s time to ditch the old you! Get some new threads, workout, eat right and drum some positive thoughts into your head. This will take between 2 and 3 months if you work hard. Make sure you set a schedule and stick to it!
  • Pimp up your Facebook profile – Your Facebook page is a constant message that your closest friends and acquaintances are reading. It’s crucial that they see the guy you want to be seen as… which is a confident, independent, happy and outgoing guy. This means you need to upload pictures of you partying with other pretty girls, smiling, traveling, doing things that you NEVER did whilst in your relationship with your ex.
  • Get in touch – Go back to “situation 1” and follow all the steps from “Get back in touch”.

Situation 3: After a year (or more)

Right then, you haven’t spoken to her in months, you know that she doesn’t have a boyfriend and you’re still kicking yourself about the breakup. Now what?

Well, the same rules apply to this situation as the above two situations. The only thing that’s different is that you don’t have a boyfriend to contend with, which means that you will find it WAY WAY easier to get her back if you keep it casual, play it cool and spruce up your current image/mindset.

Situation 4: When she doesn’t want you back (or even hates you)

Oooo, this is a tricky one bro. But it’s not impossible, so let’s get stuck in:

  • Why does she hate you? It’s vital that you find out why she hates you… because this will help you to build a solid action plan. Did you cheat on her? Did she blame you for wasting years of her life without you even proposing to her? Think man!
  • Write to her – The very first thing you need to do is write to her, Facebook, email even a freakin hand written letter dude. Apologise for what you did wrong and say to her that you respect her wishes, also that you truly wish that she finds a guy that will make her happy.
  • Leave it a few weeks – If you didn’t get a reply, that’s fine… wait a few weeks and try again (persistence is key). If you did, then that’s awesome, keep the communication flowing and suggest meeting up for a coffee because you want to stay friends with her.
  • Rinse and repeat – Follow everything from the first and second situation, until she takes you back.

So what’s the best way to get your ex girlfriend back? (Conclusion)

There are a few ground rules you MUST follow that I haven’t mentioned yet, they are solid mindset tips that will help you get her back (trust me they work).

  • Be persistent – Think alpha male who knows what he wants, not a pathetic needy loser who’s begging for attention.
  • Embrace change – Show her that you’re willing to be a better you by changing your ways.
  • Don’t sulk – The moment you accept your defeat, is the moment you will never get her back, so stay positive and know that you’re going to get her back in time.

Other awesome products on getting your ex back

So as I said earlier, I used Relationship Rewind which really helped me get my girlfriend back. It’s the best money I’ve ever spent, no question.

But I did try a couple of other products that I think are seriously worth mentioning because I picked up some killer tips in them. Here are they…

1. Relationship Rewind (5/5)

5 stars

If you’re like me and you’re incredibly lazy, then you should use this system. It shows you how to get her back just by using proven text messaging techniques.

Screen shot of the program.

2. The Ex Factor (4/5)

4 stars

I got some really great tips from this guide, if I hadn’t have gone through the other two then I would have just used this one but it would have taken me a while longer to get her back. Even so, it still works and I highly recommend you read this guide.

Screen shot of the site.

Well worth a read.

Questions that guys usually ask

What if I’ve done everything above and she still doesn’t want me back?

Then you’re not doing the steps correctly or you’re still portraying the same crappy qualities that she dumped you for in the first place.

How long will it take to get her back?

This depends on what situation you’re in dude. It took me exactly 4 weeks, but I have a friend who used the same techniques and it took him 7 months. It’s also dependent on what the girl is like, but there is never a set time frame.

What can I say to get my ex girlfriend back? Magic words!

Are you crazy? There aren’t any magic words dude, no secrets, shortcuts or magic bullets. It’s all down to persistence and a positive attitude, sprinkled with the tips above.

So there you have it, this is without a doubt the best advice you will get on understanding how to get your ex girlfriend back in the fastest way possible. I promise!

Comments

  1. You just need to give her space and time let her heal first. In the mean time go and get your self together work out hang with friends and make your self happy. I will admit it will be hard it trust me it will work. Dont put your self out there make her come to you. Don’t pay her any attention to anything she does. It’s going to be ok and who knows maybe yall wasn’t meant to be. There may be someone else out there better than her for you.

  2. My gilfriend just broke up with me. 5 days ago. She said through text and phone conversation that she was done . I asked for my stuff back that was left in her car.She took like 2 daus just to give it back. When we met up to exchange items. She gave me mine and disnt want her stuff back. After i realized that i was wrong for pushing her to say shes done i apologize with voicemail, email,and text. I only acted like an ass to her in the beginning thatpushed her to this point was because when i was upset at somthing she did i felt as if she ignored it as she didnt care to want to know why i was even upset. So i light weight metally abused her by talking shit and sending her shitty fowl mouth text messages. I only disnt it cause when i tries to express my feeling beofr the whole blow up ,sje kelt ignoring the facr that i was uoset about somthing.by ignoring text,call,and i was just building up more anger to be provoke into a shit head. Do stjff that was going to get her attentuon but was hurting her emotionally, mentally inside. She didnt want her stuff back and has continhed to ignore m. Completley as if i dont exists. I feel she never want to own up when shes wrong but she always expect me to right away. Or else. We were together for 8 months and she has to kids 7 and 9 . i feel like why throw 8 months down the drain like that. Atleas give a consideration that i was a faithful dude down to be in it for the long hall . We even talked about having more kid and getting married at some point. I mis her and never wantes it to be a permanent break up. I know if i pull at her more while she still mad and bitter shes just going to pul away more. On top of that ahe has the type of girlfriends who like bashing dudes cause thwy dont have one or not satisfied qjth the ones they have. She would always tell her friends about me and how much she loved me and even tod them all about our sexual life. Her mom and dad like me iv been around her family and every one of her family functions. Now im wondering damn is she really done. Or is she just so pissed off tell she hates me right now. Should i just totally forget she exist and wait until she comes around or should i fight for more. When she gave me back my stuff she got in her car but disnt leave right away its ike she waiting for 10 sec . I ignored it and got into my car and left cause my ego came into play juat as hers was when she said she was done for good. Help me.understand this.

  3. Im a lesbian and was with this girl for four years going 5 on july.she ask space for 3months no communication,no seeing each other so I gave her space but i broke my promise not to call,text and see her. I called her 12 times and ive been texting her also.and worst thing i did, iwent to her office so she saw me and ask what are you doing here, i told her i miss you i wanna see you.and i also ask her when she will come back and if she still love me. I keep on forcing her to answer until she pissed. So i went home and received text messages ftom her saying im not happy with what you did. I starting to hate you and you ask me if i still love you no i dont love you anymore. Now i dont know what to do? I dont wanna lose her.. pleasehelp me what to do not to lose her and to love me again..please

    • You just need to give her space and time let her heal first. In the mean time go and get your self together work out hang with friends and make your self happy. I will admit it will be hard it trust me it will work. Dont put your self out there make her come to you. Don’t pay her any attention to anything she does. It’s going to be ok and who knows maybe yall wasn’t meant to be. There may be someone else out there better than her for you.

  4. Tichaona Marondera says:

    i started dating my girlfriend in 2010 at school and now we in 2014.i snatched her from someone.its long but i can make it short

    she left me in 2011 and came back to me in 2012 afta i have callin her and not answering my calls for a year then she left again for a year 2013 around march and came back to me this year 2014…she started calling me on the 28 of february this year and i was shocked and confused about that.but at my point of view she was heartly brokened with the partner she was dating after me.we get back together but she told me we dont have to make love and i agreed but i forced her.now she is telling me she want a breakup coz im cheating but she doesnt have any proof.i loved her and i still love her.so i dont know what to do.i need your help guys..i think she is gona leave again coz im trusting her..but i said i dont want a breakup…thanks for your help guys.

    • She’s playing with you until she get what she wants from someone else. You are her comfort zone you know each other so she is just there with you after what she thinks is good is not. She she leave it becaue she thinks she found the one to replace you then she finds out the grass is not greener on the other side so she comes back. She is blaming you for cheating because she is not being 100% with you about what she is doing. She don’t want to have sex due to the fact thst she don’t want no emotional connection with you because she might find someone else and it will be hard to leave if there is emotionally attached to you.

  5. My wife of 7 yrs left 5 months ago we use to hang out and still do things together for are kids but she recently told me she is moving on a week later she tells me she in a relationship already apparently she been already seeing someone for 3 mths now I was crush because we have two kids together I admit in the beginning Are relationship started off bad u didn’t see when she was ready to settle down I wasn’t it seems to now she has more argue towards me the love please help me I don’t want to lose my family to someone else

  6. Hey I need help! So me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago. I tried to get her back at first but stopped after I saw it wasn’t working. I just started the no contact phase and am giving her time it’s been 3 days no contact. I’m fine with the no contact but here’s the tricky part, shes getting surgery Tuesday(4 days from now) and is really nervous. When we were together I was a jerk and didn’t make a big deal about it and it hurt her. So now what Idk is should I text her the night before and say something about it like goodluck don’t be nervo use it’ll be okay, just good luck or nothing at all? Help please!!

  7. I had already been arguing with my girlfriend for awhile, I had been sick and on alot of medication one night when she called and tho has got heated. The next day I saw she had took us off of a relationship on Facebook and I lost it, I gave her my password and she out of current mistrust searched through my emails. She took a light hearted conversation to be factual and believes that I am a cheater and our relationship was over a long time ago. It’s still fresh, I have sent her a very brief letter trying to keep an image that I have calmed down now, and apologized once again for how cruel I was, and for even saying the things I had. I sent her mother a 4 pg front and back letter explaining in order of occurrence everything, assuring I am not a cheater and just everything, I was completely honest, and mature in every way. This had truly heart broken me, I may not be ready to get married just yet, but she’s who I would want to be with for the rest of my life, I wouldn’t ever cheat on her, EVER :(

  8. I have been in a releshp wth my ex grlfrend for 4yrs she was my school sweethert we came from far she loved meh soo much we did everythng toghet na untll she had a crush on some guybt she found out the guy is in arelshp wth anther person she came back to meh cryng i accpted her back bt then after a mnth se change start sayng we break up bt then she apologies back for her word iknw ehe was up2 smthng i broke up wth her she didnt even say why or sory she said alryt naw its been 3weeksi tryed callng her bt she nat intrested shes is sayng she want to be single an forcus… so do you think she is a relshp wth smeone else i need advice shoild i just move on?

  9. hi, I’m a lesbian and was with this girl for two years we were so attached to each other and stuff, but then my friend ruin it, she lied to her and told her stuff about me that wasn’t even true. after that my ex replaced me with one of her friends she said their just friends, i told her not to talk to her she didn’t listen and things started going wrong then we broke up. a month later she came back I never stopped thinking about her. she said misses me and that she needed time. but she treats me like crap now, she calls me names.. then when I’m sad she asks why. I don’t understand her, she even asked me out again but said it in a way that disgusted me. I didn’t answer! I really want her back, please tell me what to do? and how to get her back I can’t live without her please help me.. I want to win her heart again please help???”

    • Love should never hurt it should be the one thing thst makes you happy. If she is talking down to you for no apparent reason then she is not the one for you. If she can’t see thst you are in her corner and love her unconditional then it’s time to move on. Wasting time is not a good look especially when yoy are young. I thought thst i could not get over my ex but I am living and making the best of the situation everyday.

  10. Hay.
    I recently lost, my girl it was my fault I got hooked up in internet adiction, porn sites and dating sites, she read my corespondance to the other women and even contacted them to see if we had met up. I did it for a quick sense of wantedness and no other reason, I’ve spoken to a doc about the adiction and confronted mtg demons, but she no longer trusts me and now I’ve lost her…

  11. I love this girl and my dad made me break up with her I didn’t want it but I had to ,so when I did break up with her, I didn’t talk to her for about a month because I would never hurt a girl so what I thought was not to talked to her for a monthbut I was wrong I made things worse its been a year now I did that 2 weeks things still nothing she’s in love with another boy but I still think she loves me because she used to be way in love with me but it is what it is I guess.

  12. I left my girlfriend and know that it way my fault I left, she has a child. I walked out because of two many demands? She shut the door for the child’s sake. What do I do?i have never loved anyone this much. Sometimes she makes a lot of demands and I don’t know what to do. I can’t go on without her.

    • Talk to her communication is the key to anything successful. Express your self about what was the underlying problem with the situation between you both. Nothing will get solved unless it’s talked out.

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