Why You Should Never Tell A Woman Your True Feelings… Initially


Don’t do it dude…


The moment you see a pretty girl who shows the slightest bit of interest in you, what do you do? You crumble into a needy little boy, who seeks approval from her and decides the best way to get her attracted to you is by divulging your deepest feelings that you have towards her. [Read more…]

The Death Of Men: How Oneitis Will Slowly Kill Your Game And Ways To Prevent It


Get more options…


Oneitis as you may or may not know is focusing on the one girl, who actually isn’t your girlfriend yet. You put all of your energy, time, money and mental capacity into just one girl, in the hope that one day you will be able to sleep with her or she will become your girlfriend.

I’ve been there, we’ve all been there and today I want to share what you need to do to stop yourself from falling into the oneitis trap, before it rips your manliness apart and takes every ounce of game you have.

Before I get into the specifics I first want to touch on the signs you will be giving off to show your oneitis and what this means to the girl, or how she interprets your innocence.

What you’re thinking…

  • Man I love this girl, she’s so hot. I would love to bang her, why is she not that into me… I REALLY like her, ugghhhhhh.
  • Why hasn’t she text me back yet, WTF??
  • What does she mean when she says “I’m cute”.
  • She is touching me, but I’m not feeling like she’s fully into me. Maybe I should be more intense or open up a bit more.
  • Oh man, I want to kiss her right now so bad!

What she’s thinking…

  • He’s cute, but I’m not that into him. There’s no spark.
  • Maybe it would be nice to go out with him, get some free food, drinks… I’d just be at home anyway.
  • Damn this guy is clingy, starting to annoy me actually.
  • I’ll just be blunt in the texts, maybe he’ll get the idea.

Now, this really is what happens. YOU think that you’re being a good guy, treating her well and playing it cool. When in actual fact you’re being a needy little bitch who is digging himself deeper into the friendship hole. Everything you’re doing is displaying neediness and as a result, you’re pushing her further away.

How to prevent being a oneitis loser

There are several ways you can deal with the plague of oneitis. Some will agree with my views and others will disagree. But I’m only going to tell you what worked for me, take what you want from it.

1. Get more options

The best thing you can is go and get more options, get into the street, go out with your friends to a bar/nightclub… whatever you need to do. Just start racking up those numbers from other girls who can help you take your mind of the one you have now. The idea is not to forget her, but it’s too remove that needy energy that you have right now.

2. Approach STUNNING women only

One of the quickest ways to dilute your oneitis-ness is by speaking to women who are more attractive than the girl you really like. Men are very focused on looks, so we are easily distracted for a second. It’s much better talking and flirting with beautiful women to give yourself a confidence boost than it is to sit and be miserable in your room hoping your girl texts you back.

3. Workout as much as you can

Working out frees the mind and allows you to get rid of angry thoughts, negative feelings, aggression and bad vibes in general. Hit the gym 5 days a week, swim, do cardio in a spin class. Even do yoga if you can. The more you do to keep your body active the fresher your mind will be.

4. Get new clothes

Get some new threads, there’s nothing better than buying some new clothes to boost your confidence. If you look good, you feel good. There’s nothing more to it than that really.

5. Do not text her immediately

If she texts you, don’t reply straight away unless it demands an immediate answer like “what time are we meeting tonight?”. The reason being is because you look too available and as though you’re waiting for her to text. By not texting straight away, she’ll assume you’re a busy guy.

6. Don’t torture yourself

Stop looking at her Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and everything else that will make you want her even more. All you’re doing is torturing yourself, which is going to make things harder mentally for you.

One final thought: She is JUST A GIRL. There are millions of beautiful women out there, just because you don’t get this one doesn’t mean you won’t get an even hotter more intelligent one next time. This is life dude, you win… you lose… you learn.

6 Reasons Why You Need To Do Suicide Missions When Starting Out


Learn the art behind the approach.


If you’re not familiar with the term “suicide mission” yet, then let me explain.

A suicide mission is simply a way to get over your approach anxiety and grow a pair. The main purpose is to help you during the warmup phase, so that when you see a girl you really like you won’t hesitate to approach and can open her with relative ease. [Read more…]

How To Game Tinder In 5 Steps And Sleep With A New Chick Every Week


Do this… Don’t do that!


Tinder has been at the forefront of mobile app dating for the past few years now, it’s had some harsh criticism and some praise. Whichever side you fall on, there’s no question that if you’re looking to get laid… you use Tinder.

Here’s the thing though, most guys do the same thing with Tinder. They upload terrible photos, swipe right on the hottest girls and always use the same boring game on each of them. [Read more…]

When Do You Need To Be Sexual With A Woman? [READER QUESTION]


Keep dialling up the attraction.


Today I have a really good question from a reader that I wanted to share which is a common question. It’s something that I used to have a ton of trouble with and it pretty much took me a couple of years to master, all because I was so insecure and uncomfortable around women.

Anyway, let’s get on with the question:

Question from a reader:

Hey Rich,

I read your book recently (The Natural) and have been having trouble with being sexual with women. I am totally fine approaching them, even really hot ones, but when I try to build sexual tension it just back fires and the girl loses interest. I’m always in the friend zone and the same thing just seems to happen every time I want to sleep with a girl.

When do I need to be sexual and how can I do it fast?


My answer:

Hey Derek,

Ok so, building sexual tension/attraction with a woman will take practice. You need to be confident with your actions first and foremost, but from the sounds of it, you are having trouble conveying your sexual intersest in women. I.e. when you meet them, they are not aware that you want to sleep with them… so immediatley put you in the friendzone.

This is a big problem and won’t go away until you address it. So let’s fix that now.

The next time you approach a woman (let’s say it’s night time in a bar) you need to approach her with an authoritive, calm and sexual manner.

Once you’ve opened her, the rule of thumb is this… you MUST begin to build sexual tension within the first 30 minutes otherwise you’re going to make it very hard on yourself and she most likely won’t want to sleep with you.

So within those precious 30 minutes, you should be doing the following…

1. Eye contact

Locking eyes with her and not breaking that contact until she does. Don’t be creepy with the eyes, just think seductive. Being able to hold eye contact is 50% of the battle at least.

2. Lips

Take your gaze from her eyes, down to her lips but in a triangular fashion. So start with the left eye, then move to the right eye and finally down to the mouth, holding for a second on each. Repeat this 2 or 3 times slowly. This will make the interaction more seductive.

3. Light constant touches

Kino (touching) is the other 50% of the battle. When you touch a girl and how you touch a girl is SO IMPORTANT for creating a sexual tension that will make her incredibly horny, very fast. Touch her arms, stomach, hands, legs, face… everywhere that a “friend” wouldn’t really touch. Also make sure they are incredibly light touches.

4. Interlock fingers

Interlocking fingers sends a very strong signal of “we’re connecting on a deeper level”. It helps with trust and once she trusts you, it will make it much easier to sleep with her.

5. Sensual hugs

You may have heard of this before, but sensual hugs can lead to sex so fast it’s unbelievable at times. The next time you’re talking to a woman, say to her that you learned a techqniue called “ashram hugs” where you hug for 1 to 2 minutes, but you breath at the same time in/out. When you do this with her, it will catapult the sexual tension far beyond what you could have imagined.

6. Read her signals

Always read her signals. Is she self grooming, is she lingering, does she keep eye contact instead of looking around, is she touching you, does she initiate the conversation when silences happen.

7. Keep pushing

Don’t forget you need to keep dialing up the attraction. Keep touching more, getting closer, looking at her seductively and moving in for the kiss…. etc. This will move things much faster, so you can bang her.

And there you have it.

Hope these tips help. Let me know how you get on Derek.

Thanks Rich.

Why You Should Stop Trying To Get Laid


Women will follow if you create a valuable lifestyle.


I used to try REALLY hard to get laid when I first started out back in the day. I would chase women, pressure them, hound them until I got them into bed.

How many women did that get me in the end? Not many, one or two over several months of constant pursuit. [Read more…]

How To Take Over Any Bar And Engineer Your Social Value In 6 Steps


It’s far easier than you think.


Taking over a bar is one of the best things you can do to get laid, meet cool people and even get free drinks/food. It can be done in any city all over the world and will open up a side of your game that isn’t usually accessible to most guys.

So what do I mean by “take over”? [Read more…]

The Evolution Of Game: 11 Stages You Need To Get Good At Before Mastery


Mastery is only 11 stages away.


When I first started out learning about game, I was confused… frustrated and felt utterly disappointed every time I got rejected or some girl flaked on me after I’d worked had to get her number.

Nowadays, almost 10 years on… I’m incredibly happy with my life. The funny thing is that when you get to a stage where you’ve mastered every area of game or at least gotten to a very good level, you become less focused on pickup and running game, it all just flows naturally. [Read more…]

3 Counterintuitive Things You Can Do To Make Women Want You More


Photo credit: The Chive


As habitual creatures, us humans like to run patterns over and over in the same way, even if they are in fact bad for us and can cause us long term harm.

These patterns go on for years and are so ingrained in our minds that we begin to justify them. For example, how many times have you gone to a bar or club, headed straight for the bar… got a drink and just stood there in one spot or grabbed a chair and sat their the whole night, until you were completely drunk? [Read more…]

The Most Powerful Mindset Shift You Can Have For Nightclub Game


Use my techniques… and get the girl you want.


I want to share something quite profound that I’ve noticed over the years, from visiting hundreds of nightclubs. Now you might not agree with this and that’s ok. Frankly I don’t care… because it’s true to me. [Read more…]