The dreaded friend zone can be a scary place, if you are too nice she’ll be a friend for life… if you’re too full on, she’ll lose interest. Here’s how to bust out of the friend zone and make her your girlfriend.
First, I want to say that if you don’t have women in your social circle, you need to get some, it’s weird to only have male friends, especially if they also don’t have any female friends! Start meeting women and get their numbers to hang out with them, even if they aren’t so attractive just so you can have some female energy
So, you’ve got a girl that you are attracted to, she’s in your social circle and considers you a friend, but you would like something more. How do you turn things sexual or at least express your interest? You definitely don’t do what most guys do and say “You know, I’ve always loves you and would like to be with you forever, please love me!” or something similar. She will be freaked out! So here’s what to do:
1. Use Attraction Builders
If you are interacting with her on the same level as her females friends, her auntie, and her gay best friend, it is no wonder she doesn’t consider you for a potential boyfriend.
Build attraction by teasing her: make fun of her – the desired response is that she laughs and hits you at the same time. Use challenges – ask her challenging questions about her character and what kind of person she is and either approve or disapprove of her answers. Alternate breaking rapport and connecting – break rapport on surface level interests – if she likes Harry Potter, feel free to say that it is lame. If she has something you genuinely like, tell her. Mix
2. Present Yourself as a High-Value, Sexual Male
Pursue other women, talk about your love life, your wants, girls you are attracted to. Do not be a-sexual, show that you are a sexual being. Have passions and interests and communicate them, make your world interesting and exciting and maybe a little mysterious.
3. When The Time Comes, Transition Correctly
So, you’ve built some attraction and interest if it wasn’t there already, now it’s time for action. You need to get her on her own, preferably in the night time, and you need to escalate physically. BUT, you need to do it playfully. Tease, poke, prod, tiggle, play-fight. This is just as good for building sexual tensions as other types of touching but is more non-threatening and low pressure. After a while, stop, look at her, and feel if it is on or not. If it is, the kiss can happen.
4. It has to “Just Happen”
If she has already classified you as a friend, it’ll be a big shock to suddenly have you declare your love. It needs to “just happen” instead and this is how to do it. If you try this and it isn’t on, then you haven’t risked a huge amount and don’t have to lose your friendship – she can always introduce you to her friends!
So that’s how you can get out of the friend zone, if you follow the steps above you’ll easily be able to break out.