About a month ago, AFC Adam put on a a secret “advanced tactics” seminar in Austin, TX.
The video above is from that workshop.
One of the topics he covered was “Negative Attraction”. The guys in the room loved it, so I decided it would be pretty cool to give it away here on the blog. Watch it, enjoy, and let me (And Adam!) know what you think :-)
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Adam’s always got great content. I was supposed to be down there in Austin for this and I couldn’t make it. Now I’m pretty disappointed I didn’t.
great job as always Adam.
I love these videos Gambler.
Rock on.
Great content Adam – always nice to see other perspectives on attraction :)
frame control and bonding ..
I think we can discuss years on this topic and never end it …
Sounds like high school all over again..
I recently met this kind of bitchy-super-cold girl, and started to doubt that a solution existed !!!!
really great video !!! Thanx
I prefer to stay away from that kind of girl.
but great video anyway
Awesome value!
It’s great to see how the community is moving away from
fixed systems, to a more intelligent understanding of social dynamics.
This is very similair to pacing and leading in hypnosis and nlp, but applied in a new context.
Nice new stuff. A little confused. But I`ll add this to my arsenal!
these kind of girls don’t deserve attention.
it’s just pathetic men that keep hitting on woman even though they are mean to them.
just go to the nice girls and leave the bitchy girls to rot…
and believe me they rot.
and they rot.
and rot.
rot.
your infant drive to prove to yourself you can get any girl will just ruin your life.
Very clearly explained, though it does seem like a risky thing to pursue. I can imagine why it comes with a disclaimer!
This video is awesome! I know and have met girls who are exactly like this and I’ve always thought about how you’d melt them. I like you have always suspected that deep down most of them are seriously fragile. You’re advice is great.
One thing I’d add is that I think it would actually be very helpful to, relatively early on in an interaction, explain to the girl you are gameing some of the things that you are explaining in the video. Ask her questions like “Have you attracted the wrong type of men in the past?”, “Do you want to know why you’ve attracted the wrong type of men?”. Tell her.
I could see that being this intuitive about what is definitely a specific “type” of girl would drive them crazy with curiosity and interst as to how you know so much about them.
god this is uber gay
I gotta say, by far, this was ANOTHER true eye opener! These tactics he described just showed me that you can use them with many different scenarios! Each time he explains his stories, it makes my game more understandable in what im doing in each set I try out! Now i REALLY want to get into stuff and make things happen v-day coming around the corner!
Thx for the vid Gambler and Adam! Truly some helped me out in my sticking points!
This is interesting in the realm that, this is the only kind of girl I’ve ever met. I’ve always turned a skeptical eye towards all forms of game OTHER than this, because clearly, nothing else would ever work. All women are like this. I’ve never, ever, even once, met a girl who wasn’t.
awesome!!!! I love frame control and this is just…wicked!!! ;)
Where the fcuk is the video?
Good god I went out with one of these for 3 years.
Nice turnaround on the bitch shield babe.
Great amount of stuff you’re giving away here guys. Nice one.
i fink steer clear there not guna bang there negative people who wants to be around that . thease sorta girl will enfuriate any guy so i think there was no point posting this . n thease are the sorta girls who fuck up mens head’s so it a no go area i rekon .
I like it……….all about matching the energy level. Interesting to hear how to counter traps set by the girl and not to fall into them. Good advice.
Adam shows great insight and experience in how to seduce that kind of girls! He’s a real master of the art!
I can see the challenge of it, but that’s not really the type of girls I’m looking for!
On the other hand, many woman present a milder form of this ambiguous behaviour. So it’s helpful to know something about it.
Thank you for sharing this stuff, It is incredible awesome on how those evil bitches can treat you bad, I do know some girls who act just like that and after seeing this material I’m glad that I’ve never approach them but now I’ll.
Thank you very much.
simply intellectual.. as expected of Adams.
Really great stuff Adam! :-)
Wow, incredible psychology. That is some deep inner reading of these types of girls! And, yes, there are a LOT of them out there. I always knew they were probably this way because of either abusive or bad childhoods, or as you say, being hurt in the past by a guy or somer other means. You know, this is the same trait that a negative guy has, and there are also a LOT of these types. I wonder if these two types of “normally negative” personalities are what eventually get together, and make “connections”, as very few guys would have the skills to do as you did? A negative guy would “naturally” make the same types of interactions as you did with the “club girl”.
A wonderful page, but where is the video?
smart approach but makes you try to find the negative girls and attract them…which can only bring more negativity to your life…does not sound like a good idea to me
Really? I thought all girls were like this.
No, but seriously, I think every girl knows how to do this, it’s really easy. It requires no social skills or intelligence to sit there and be annoyed by the world, and yet when you’re hot, everyone still loves you. The biggest problem with that is that she’ll want you to give her everything, and will show no appreciation whatsoever. Why? Simply because she can. All her relationships have probably been pretty bad, and will continue to be, so don’t look for that.
They look annoyed by the approaches, but they actually love it, and they hate it when they don’t get approached. As hot as they are they still need this validation every night they go out.
They are the reason why many guys avoid the night scene altogether, the clubs are full of these. Worst of all is even if a girl is not authentically negative, she’s going to copy what the hot girl is doing because she sets the example for what’s attractive.
Let’s do the world a favor and avoid them like we should.
Adam, in your desperation to carve a niche out for yourself, you’re actually talking BS. The truth is, bitchy women are attracted to men who call them out on their bitchiness. Not to men who join them and become bitch-boys themselves. If you have approached enough bitchy women you would know. If you have just ogled at them from afar, then you come up with all kinds of fantastic theories. You’re such a wannabe, it makes me sick.
That’s interesting stuff.
No, really! I’ll tell you why.
Basically in my country (BG) if you enter in a club, average at least 50% of the girls are like that. One simple glance over the area and you spot several. Move around and you have dozens of them.
Now that I think I’ve had few similar encounters. I wouldn’t even call them approaches. More like accidental interactions. And now when going back – they were actually a connection on a negative vibe.
The social proof here got a lot of …value. Actually I’ve had few girls do a semi-approaches on me (yep, we are one little messed up country) only based on social value. And all of them were using the negative comment on something. Like they try to impress you by being negative and ‘above things’ at the same time. I guess they were connecting the social value to some kind of twisted power of dominance. As I said, I’m only guessing here.
About that validation expectation part – in my experience it’s been just on the edge of negative and sarcastic. You kind of agree with them but they aren’t quite sure.
Anyway, I don’t enjoy those interactions. If the person is negative I see him in a negative way thus all hers/his ‘bad traits’ were they visual or not will imprint for me. I will see that little mole, that tooth, that pimple, that twitch…strange stuff (most probably some sort of justification mechanism).
If you want to continue interaction with those kinds sometimes gets tricky. Your friends from your left side are positive, on your right the person is negative. Not cool.
Karma got a point here – if you bust them on their bitchiness you can create massive attraction, of course the social value here is a must, otherwise it will be just another ‘don’t feed the troll’.
For example I’ve had bouncers called on me because I was busting balls of such negative person. Good thing we owned the club, but imagine if that wasn’t the case.
Also Karma, mate, there are a lot of ways to get the same outcome. There are a lot of systems out there and that one is different than the other does not mean it’s fantastic theory. Different people, different approaches, different tools (in learning). Be a little more open minded!
Reowr! Lots of bitchy posts on this one!
There is a difference between a girl who is grumpy for a good reason, one who is just grumpy all the time, and one who is a bitch.
The best game in the world comes from realizing that chicks are people too! Relating to their state of mind does not need to include giving up your position/power. These girls test your ability to hold your own, and you’d be damn surprised how sweet and dirty they get when you don’t bend to their assault.
Most of them are sick of tools. Whether they know it or not, their whole attitude is about pushing a guy to see if he jumps through her hoops, like a trained circus animal, to get in her pants. I bet few realize it on a conscious level. They’re just so sick of the same old douche bags hitting on them, that they lash out hoping for someone it just doesn’t work on. Again, consciously or not, they realize that a guy who puts up with that attitude can never be an equal, and must be after just one thing.
And that is where genuinely NOT being out to get laid always works to your advantage. And why her whole bitch/negative attitude DOES work for her. Lame players are instantly shut down, and she doesn’t have a week/month/year of BS. Men who just want to get laid hate it, because it works and they haven’t the brains or spine to understand why.
There, I spelled it out for you. Adam is right, but this is the underlying foundation that eliminates all ‘variations.’
Your game may now rock because you know ‘why.’
Some great stuff! Anyways I haven’t been around in a while but would like to let everyone know what I’ve been up to :)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MFTHK1TvYQQ
Psych, In that video you mention one of your friends has written a book about it. What was the name of it?
really good vid, but can anyone give me any other vids on this or other websites that will help me? im a really shy guy and would love some help if u can help, thanks
you’ll have to become unshy mark, just keep talking to people and practising pushing out of your comfort zome and break out of shy prison… it holds you back from many life benifits
Yeah what John said mark, go out and socialise with as many people as possible. Don’t even think about pick up yet, just interact with other human beings, there’s a lot of awesome people out there, who can enrich your life.
I’m shy as well, so I know that you’ve come to the right place, as there’s tons of helpful material on here and other pua sites on just that issue. It’s very common, but not at all easy to deal with. Read Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, read that therapist guys articles. Its totally awesome to go up to a group of girls, despite being afraid, and feel so relieved when they start smiling and enjoying your company. But if you’re not there yet, meet some people by finding some events on meetup.com
Dude, give me a break! Are you telling us that you had a student who wasn’t getting it and so you told him to go and join a bitchy girl and start bitching himself? And then “they had sex that night”. They had sex that night??????
You’re the modern day equivalent of the snake oil salesman. Lying PUA instructors like you are the reason the pickup community has a bad name.
Take notes AFC Adam. Here’s some Pickup 101.
A guy who does not break rapport, ESPECIALLY with a bitch (it is mandatory to break rapport with a bitch), can at most talk to her for a few seconds, he cannot have “sex with her that night”. Sure there are exceptions…if he was a Robert Pattinson look-alike and the girl was horny as f**k, but that’s what it is : the exception.
But a real man (the man the bitch wants to f**k) does not EVER show that he is affected by any of the shit that’s affecting her. In fact, it is the fact that he is NOT affected by anything, that makes her look low value, and which causes the attraction.
It has nothing to do with which school of attraction you come from, it has to do with the way ATTRACTION works. Period.
Don’t try to re-invent the wheel.
And even if you do, don’t lie with the results.
he must have been talking about my ex at the start of the video
Very interesting post. I think a lot of men get hung up on the idea of “bitch shields”. You don’t always have to be trying to break someone down. Good info Adam.
Hi guys,
good day, hope you are all well.
About my person, Italian Natural, 35 living in Germany, 123 sec closed pickups so far.
This is quite an interesting approach actually the only one possible over here, so we specialised in applying it consistently and it works in 80% of the cases…
Anyway, there are some specific cultural differences which I believe will need to be considered case by case as well as how they effect the different ways of interrelating worldwide…
This basically to say, there is not a magic formula to apply but a lot of them to be adapted case by case…at the end, in my opinion, all can be summed up by saying *just have fun* while picking up, this is definitely a very good way of start moving further…
U all take care guys..
ok cheers for some of those comments, gd hearing from others in same position
Hey Adam,
I appreciate the video because this could be helpful for women that believe that men should proceed with caution when it comes to them, especially at Valentine’s Day parties.
well i myself is the evil. I love ice queens, i love hot bitches! Dude u’re seriously helping me out with what u’ve developed! I just don’t like good girls, i like the hot bitches, i love the challenge. U noe, men like conquering.
Spotting these hot bitches has always been a problem for me, now ur work solved my concern. I’ll go out after my work and seek for the hot bitches!
May the boobs be with u.
this is pure faggotry, frame control my ass, you’re buying into her frame by turning yourself into a bitch and giving up everything that’s attractive about you as a man. Have standards about how people act around you and call them on it when they cross that line. Massive attractive. If she throws up a bitch shield just fucking plow through it and don’t be a faggot trying to change your whole paradigm so you can get a phone number and tell her “pleasure meeeting you” and then go spend the night with your vaseline and hentai.
Ha, ha, ha, Random, agree 100%. This is a classic case of a new fangled PUA desperate to carve out a niche, even if by using fantastic theories. Maybe there’s a reason why the guy calls himself an AFC. ;)
WTF is this bullshit faggot. I’d like to invite you over for dinner.
Ha, ha….Richard, r u attracted to AFC Adam?!
Hmmmm…looks like ‘negative attraction’ does work after all. ;)
Woah. Quite divided comments. I really AM an AFC still fighting the rookie problem of approach anxiety and not getting far. My motivation to keep trying is that I managed to stumble into the ‘graces’ of one of these girls NOT wanting to get involved with any more of them. To instead find people who are good for me and learn how to play the game well when I meet them.
It makes a lot of sense when I replay 3 months of messed up games. I wonder how it would’ve played out if I had thought this way beforehand. The girl I got to myself when we were alone was pretty special too. It’s a shame it didn’t last outside closed doors.
Even with the view of the scared, insecure, damaged girl under the bitch that I got… that’s someone else’s battle from now on. not for me. some wounds run too deep. i don’t want to be the one to try and fix her (any of them). if you boys want them, you can have them. I don’t want to get dragged under in their wake to develop wounds of my own that could run just as deep.
Every new idea I can pick up (right or wrong) about social interactions has helped me work out who I am dealing with and helps me feel how to best deal with them. Thank you for the post.
where’s the video?
i dont see the video
cool stuff..u guys are just amazin..keep it up…
Brilliant. Evolving from disqualification theory, this is basically the far end of the spectrum. However, it is not exactly disqualifying, it is being immoral. There is a big difference obviously. Attraction is built through commonality instead of disqualification, and rapport is a secondary process as uasual. Anti-conformal beahviors and attitudes stem from narcisism, and the key is matching. Brilliant!
I sincerely prefer to folow his advice: just walk away.
Dont need those kind of people in my life.
Interesting story..
Just one remark, not trying to be hatin’, but your shirt is to tight for your (kind of) body.
its for the ladies “the man”.
Cool! ;)
Fantastic video. Something I will definitely try if the opportunity arises.
How can anyone take a guy like this seriously when he doesn’t even know how to dress? Show me one girl with an iota of fashion sense who would be impressed with a tight polo and budding bitch tits.
…apparently, his smoking hot wife.