How to Meet Women at the Gym

Meeting women at the gym does not have to be a challenge. It is simply a matter of having the right body language, knowing when to approach her, knowing what to say, and knowing what mistakes to avoid.

With these tips and tricks, you will be picking up women at the gym in no time.


The Keys to Meeting Women at the Gym

These are the essential keys to how to meet women at the gym. Getting her number is all about knowing when, where, and how to approach her.

Pick the Right Time

Timing is everything. You should avoid approaching women while they are distracted, such as when they are in the middle of squats or bench presses. You will have more success if you talk to her while she is on the treadmill next to you but use your best judgement.

It does not matter how hot you are, if you choose the wrong time to strike up a conversation with her you will ruin any chance you have of getting her number.

Keep it Brief

On that note, you also want to keep the discussion as brief as you can. She is there on a mission, to get a workout in. Even if she likes you, she will not enjoy you distracting her from this with a long conversation.

It is a better idea to make a connection, get her number, and move on so you can talk to her later. It is better to get to know her later, on a date.

How to Talk to Her

Do not overthink your pickup line. It is good to start with something fun, casual, and playful rather than coming up with the perfect pickup line.

Your goal is to get her interested in having a conversation with you. If you can get her talking for a few minutes, you should not have any problem getting her digits.

Get Her Number

If things go well and she seems to enjoy talking with you, ask for her number. Do not be coy about it, be open and direct.

Something like...

"Right I need to workout... what's your number, we can go for a coffee in the week".

If you happen to have your phone with you, hand it to her so that she can type it directly into your contacts list. Then, shoot her a text message so that she has your number.

Pro Tip

If your Instagram game is on point, then you should get follow each other on there. It will help with social proof and letting her build a mental picture of who you are, which adds to the fantasy.

More Tips to Help You Meet Women at the Gym

Here are some useful strategies that you can use to help you meet women at the gym.

Go to a Group Class

Group classes are a great place to meet women. There is more opportunity for social interaction, and it gives you a chance to get away from the regulars. If you go to a group class frequently, there are higher chances that you will meet a woman that you are interested in.

Give It a Couple of Times

It probably is not a good idea to approach her the first time that you see her. There is a chance that she is dating someone else at the gym or has another partner outside of the gym.

It is awkward at best and scary at worst to find out that you have been hitting on the girlfriend of a guy who is a lot bigger than you. Wait until you have seen her a couple of times to make your move.

Does She Want You?

You should also look for any signs of physical attraction that she is displaying towards you before you make your approach.

If she keeps looking over your way and her body language indicates that she wants you to talk to her, then you are in luck. If you talk to her now, she will probably be receptive to conversation.

It is also a good idea to brush up on the science of how attraction works.

Mistakes to Avoid

If you are interested in meeting women at the gym, you also need to keep in mind the common mistakes that men make and how to avoid them.

Giving Unwanted Exercise Advice

Men who spend a lot of time at the gym have a bad reputation for approaching women under the guise of giving her advice on the exercise equipment that she is using.

The problem is that she probably will not be in the mood for unwanted advice if she has not asked for it or if her body language does not show that she is comfortable.

This is for the same reason that a woman who is on a “girls’ night” out might not be interested in having men talk to her. If she is there to focus on her workout, she would probably rather avoid the distraction of socializing with others.

If you ignore these body language cues, you will probably get rejected unless you are able to change her mind by getting her to laugh.

Assuming Your Muscles Will Turn Her On

You should also avoid assuming that being totally ripped will be an advantage. Chances are, there are lots of other guys in the gym who are just as fit as you are, if not more buff.

This means that you will have to find something other than your muscles to make you stand out if you are trying to meet women at the gym.

Body language, a sense of humor, and charisma are all more important in terms of making you stand out than having a six pack is.

Not Taking No for an Answer

This is a crucial one. If she turns you down or is uninterested in talking to you, you need to accept no for an answer.

Even if she was displaying signs that she might be interested in you earlier, she does not actually want to talk to you now. Trying to change her mind will make her uncomfortable and could even result in you being asked to leave the gym.

Final Thoughts

The gym can be a great place to meet women as long as you have the right approach and mentality. These days it can be a little tricky because of the MeToo stuff. So as long as you act cool and not a creep, you'll do just fine.

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  1. What if you think that your exercise advice would actually be welcome? Then could you do it?

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