The 3 Steps To Dating Younger Women, Even If You Think They Are Way Out Of Your League

There are a large amount of guys out there there would love to be dating younger women (instead of a MILF) but just don’t know how to go about doing it.

I’m not talking about a creepy 60 year old guy stalking teenagers… I’m saying 33 years old going out with a 23 year old, that type of age gap.

Now some dudes might be thinking…

What?! Older men dating younger women?? Eew!

Why would you want to date someone that much younger than you… and all I can say is, don’t knock it until you’ve tried it my good man.

For me, I like younger women because they are usually more spontaneous, carefree, not tied down, have zero baggage and are in most cases more beautiful.

…Oh and they’re always way more open to trying freaky thangs in the bedroom too :)

So today I’m going to break it down for you and show you exactly how I go about dating younger women… so here goes:

How to date younger women (only 3 steps)

It starts with your mindset

Dating Younger Women

Younger = hotter

Without understanding why younger women like older men, you won’t grasp the basics and you’ll never be able to find a younger girlfriend. So let’s start with the basics.

  • People that are her age are more likely guys who aren’t successful, not sure of themselves, still students, very naive and insecure. Remember, women grow up faster than men, so they need to find that balance which usually ends with age/wisdom.
  • You need to embody the same qualities a gentleman who’s older would have, that she would find attractive (they won’t act like a kid, go skateboarding, get pocket money from mum etc) but they will have (their own house, car, secure career, very confident etc).

Give her a reason to consider older guys

  • What do you say when she asks: What is your age? So this question will ALWAYS come up and it will come up within the first hour or so of you meeting her, if not soon after.
  • You can return with a question of your own, without even answering hers…You could say: How old are you? Then you can follow up with… Maybe you’re too young for me.
  • Another good one is: Are you mature for your age? (questions that qualify her are always a good way to make her jump through hoops and work for your attention).

Make her believe older is better

So now that she’s considering dating you or at least seeing you again, you need to convince her that older is better, through your way of thinking and the way you answer your questions.

  • She may ask: Why are you dating younger women? Answer logically why it’s better for you to date younger women. So say why older women aren’t fitting for your current lifestyle (you don’t want to settle down, you don’t want kids yet, you like to go out etc).
  • If she says her family and friends are freaked out by her dating an older guy you can set the frame by saying… you expect and admire if she’s the type of girl that can stand up for herself and make her own decisions.

Here’s the deal, in the US and UK… we’re always very concerned about age. To the point where we are actually ageist, which is why you see people of very similar ages dating each other.

But in a country like Russia for example, the age gap is always at least 7 years if not more.

So the bottom line is this: If you like dating younger women, then just go for it dude and don’t worry about what others think. But also be careful, younger women are promiscuous and like to travel a lot. Don’t ever date a younger girl in another country, that’s a disaster. Their age an inability to stay faithful is exactly why long distance relationships don’t work with women in the social media age.

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  1. Hi Richard,

    Your Stealth Attraction really helped me to get to know more girls and also made me realize I’m better in getting girls with nightgame.

    I’ve read this article a while ago and a few weeks ago I got introduced to a 19 year old model. She asked me: What is your age? With your article in mind I answered I’m too old for you and she kept asking. I then asked her: Are you mature for your age? and she started to qualify herself and kino me the whole night, kiss closed that same night and few days later closed the complete deal in my bed with your sex techniques. Now we are dating for a few weeks now.

    Your stuff really helped me and I will keep reading your blogs to improve myself.



  2. Totally digging the part about making her qualify herself to you. Killer idea.

    I’ve dated women up to 9 years younger than me (I’m 32) so I don’t see that big of a deal unless she’s an immature 23 year old. As long as she has her own place or doesn’t live at home with her parents and doesn’t have a car (which some live that way) I’m cool with it.

    Fun read and great tips!


  3. Hi Rich,,

    I have this girl, who is 8 years younger than me and likes me a lot but she doesn’t really communicate much, even when i try to start a conversation with her. I KNOW she likes me, considering the amount of signs she’s giving off. They say “Actions speak Louder Than Words” so maybe she’s focusing more on that, i dunno really..I like her too and i don’t want to kill the attraction she has for me. What kinds of things can i say to her to start off with to spike her attraction for me AND that will have her responding back ?


  4. I’ve had a 10-year age gap all my life. That’s normal for me and has never been even the slightest of an issue, had LTR’s and married to a woman 10 years younger. Now I’m 53 and single again and don’t feel creepy at all going for women in the 25-40 age range. I just started getting successful in pickup: 2 lays last week with cute women obviously much younger than me, and no, we didn’t exchange age info before having sex, nor am I good-looking like George Clooney.

  5. robert morgan says

    your teaching may be all well and good but they do nothing for this 61 year old gent. i have done worked different clubs and to all no end. what i have found nite after nite women of all ages always go after the young men and completely ignore us older gents. thanks for your teachings but they do me no good.

  6. Hello Richard,
    I’m a chick by the way and I am actually struggling to find a man for a serious long term relationship as I am mature now do your techniques work on men too or just on women.

    • PUA Training says

      Look for a guy who is settled in his life, who doesn’t go out and party all the time, who’s friends are mostly in relationships, and who has had long relationships in the past, and if he is a little bit shy that is even better.

  7. Jerry Pool says

    Im a 61 year old man. Don’t look it and am not to bad looking and usually date 15 year younger women than me but seems like been having more trouble getting them to allow me to connect with them. I dance a lot with many women 30 and 40 years younger than me but seems like they have an attendency to just shut down when we start connecting. Im from the midwest and there is a little more of an attitude against big age differences in men and women here. But I know these women are attracted and like me and have fun with me but seems like they just have this unspoken rule about someone my age.. Can you give me some advice on how to deal with these shut downs and any tricks to maybe help me get past it. Thank you very much Jerry

  8. Qazi Zeeshan says

    Is Stealth Attraction is suitable for beginner level people?

  9. You should add “eastern european” to every single one of your post titles. Ive noticed that seems to be the only type of women you deal with… not a bad thing, just different if we are US or UK etc not going for foreigners

    • PUA Training says

      They are the girls in the videos, and my preference…but my stuff is always tried and tested in England/America. I lived in London for most of my life.

  10. I am 53 and dating a 23 year old “Perfect 10” ..I know its not going to last unfortunately, that’s why I am here, but it has been amazing and fun for both of us!

  11. Hi Richard. Firstly, thank you for always posting snippets that always comprise useful content and add value. I’m sooo tired of other PUA’s that send rubbish, take long to watch or read, hold zero useful content and end with a sales pitch. Kudos mate! Regarding this video, I am 60 and when you get to this age, dating younger women isn’t a nice-to-have, its an imperitive! Dating someone my own age feels like dating my mother, few have retained any of there youthful attributes and they are sooo boring. ;)) Strangely, most of my successes are women in their 40’s, seems many reach a crossroad in there lives at this age, many divorcees a few widows and most are looking for something better than the marriage they just got out of. Women in their 50’s have settled down again and become comfortable with being single and start all the nonsense and pickyness teenagers again. Tips like yours in the video are very useful! Thanks again and I hope I have given you a little insight into the world of the older guy. Cheers,

  12. You guys are a joke. Dating younger women is the easiest thing in the world. They’re conditioned to go after older men in the first place (they assume older = richer). Make a video about dating older women, that’s the real challenge.

  13. What makes you think 60 year olds are creepy? Some young women are very attracted to those OLD men. Of course, $$$ can make a big difference.

    • PUA Training says

      Yeah of course, the exceptions are celebrity, huge wealth, power…then there isn’t really an age limit.

  14. Good tips, especially priming her to stick to her own feelings and not get swayed by peer pressure, which can get heavy with 30 year gaps!

  15. Wait til you’re 60 and you want to date younger women Sport!
    Then you won’t think you’re creepy!

  16. What about older women in their mid 30’s-40’s? If they tell you that they are married or have kids will you just move on to the next girl or continue to pursue? Kind of a personal judgement call I guess. What do you think?

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