One of the hardest things to deal with as a man is when your girl says “I don’t orgasm when we have sex and never have”. Not only is it a blow to your ego, but it should also make you feel a little guilty, that you’re climaxing during sex, but she’s just going through the motions.
But don’t worry bro… it’s been reported that over 30% of women have NEVER climaxed in their life, which means you’re not alone on this one.
I want to put a stop to that and make sure you have everything you need to make your girl orgasm. Not just have her first orgasm, but make her shake and quiver from cumming so much, that she begs you to come to bed.
Let’s do this!
WAIT! You know, if your girl still can’t climax after you try everything below, then it’s most likely your fault. You NEED to get better bedroom skills dude. Watch this video, it will help you a bunch.
Remember: It’s all in her mind
The first thing I want you to remember is this. The number 1 reason women who have never orgasmed… can’t orgasm. Is because they are too in their own head. The psychological weight is just too overbearing, which is causing a mental block that stops her from orgasming physically.
So there are four things that you need to do:
1. Have her trust you implicitly: Trust is a HUGE part of sex. If a woman doesn’t trust you, she will not allow herself to be fully in the moment physically or mentally. So you should make it a priority to gain her trust, let her know that you are there for her, would do anything for her and she can trust you 100%.
2. Ask her what turns her on… then do it: Everyone has fantasies. Talk to your girl about what really turns her on and what you can do to help live out her fantasies. Does she secretly want anal sex? Does she want to dress up like a filthy stripper? Does she want group sex with another girl? Dig deep and get everything you need out of her. The better the sexual adventures, the more chance she has of orgasming.
3. Build her self confidence: As you well know, women struggle with insecurities more than men. So their self esteem will be a lot lower in most cases. When a women isn’t confident about her body, she will tend to hide it, especially in the bedroom. You need to tell her how beautiful she is and how much her body turns you on. The sexier she feels, the more body confident she will be.
4. Don’t rush her: If you put pressure on her to cum, she won’t… EVER. So let her know that there’s no rush and if she doesn’t climax today or tomorrow, it doesn’t matter. Just tell her to relax and enjoy.
Use sex toys
Sex toys are a great way to take the stress away from your sexual performance and to stimulate the areas of her body that need the most attention. There are hundreds of popular toys on the market, however two come up more than any that a lot of women (and couples) rave about.
- We-Vibe: This little space-age jerk off machine is designed for the adventurous couples. Just place it on the top of your penis, slide that badboy in and the We-Vibe device will work it’s magic, hitting both the G-spot and the clitoris at the SAME TIME. Boom, if that doesn’t make her orgasm, I don’t know what will.
- Hitachi Magic Wand: Ready for the big guns? This high powered device is designed to make any woman cum on demand, by stimulating the clit with mains powered vibration. It can hit speeds of up to 6000 RPM, so her clit will take a beating. It’s not cheap, but it is worth it.
Use a LOT of foreplay
Don’t just jump straight into sex… unless she’s REALLY turned on already. It’s been said that the orgasm is in the tease, meaning the more you tease a woman, the more worked up she will get with anticipation, which will lead to a quicker orgasm.
- Massage her seductively: Learn some killer massage techniques and show her you know how to use your hands properly. A seductive massage, with the right oils, music and mood, will get her in the mood very quickly.
- Lick her pussy like a pro: Being able to go down on a woman is an art and skill that you need to acquire. A lot of men don’t bother because they don’t like it, but if your girl can’t cum, then this is one of the reasons why my friend. Try out some tongue moves and see how she likes it.
- Use your fingers: Your fingers are just smaller, skinnier versions of your penis and they can get to areas of the vagina that your cock can’t. Make sure you finger your girl properly during foreplay and she will thank you for it later, trust me.
- Play with her senses (blind fold her): A cool trick to try in the bedroom is blindfolding your girl. By doing so, you are heightening her other senses. She doesn’t know what you’re going to do so it builds anticipation, plus she is focused purely on the sex and not the visual aspect.
Did you know? Women can have up to 9 different kinds of orgasms, which means you have your work cut out and plenty of options to keep the fun going.
Target the G-spot during sex
Your main priority when actually having sex should be making sure that your penis his hitting her g-spot with every stroke. The best way to do this is by using sex positions that target the g-spot. It’s important to maintain good stamina and to listen to her body during intercourse.
That is it dude! If you try everything above and your girlfriend still can’t orgasm, maybe you need to take her to the doctors to get her checked out.
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Sorry but that was nonsense.
How is it his fault if she has NEVER had an orgasm, either on her own or with other partners?
Blaming it on the guy is just lazy.
If she’s never had one, then it’s her fault no one elses.