eHarmony Review: Can You Really Find Your Soulmate?

Today, it seems like there are a million dating sites and apps out there that claim to help you find that 'special someone.' With so many options, it can initially seem daunting choosing which one to go with.

eHarmony has been around since 2000, with its tagline claiming that "every 14 minutes, someone finds love on eHarmony."

While I can't say for sure how accurate this stat is, I will say that eHarmony has been one of the go-to sites for those looking for something long-term for a long time. While it does come with its flaws, it's been around for 20 years because it works!



  • Truly Compatible Matches: Members are required to complete an 80-question compatibility test upon signing up, meaning your matches will be a great fit.
  • With 30 million active registered members, there is a huge pool of potential candidates.
  • Nearly every member has the same goal here of looking for something long-term.
  • eHarmony's algorithm is in-depth and is always being developed by the site.


  • The free version is very limited, meaning you'll have to shell out some cash for success.
  • There is no search bar on eHarmony, so you rely solely on the algorithm to find that special someone.
  • If you want quick results, you'll find eHarmony's sign-up process pretty tedious.

eHarmony Stats

eHarmony's gender ratio sits at 51% men and 49% women, making it roughly equal. The age ranges are as follows:

  • 18-29 (4%)
  • 30-44 (7%)
  • 45-54 (3%)
  • 55-64 (4%)
  • 65+ (3%)

As users on eHarmony are looking for something more serious, it makes sense that its most active user base is in the 30s, though that doesn't mean that there aren't younger adults looking for something on the long-term scale.

And with millions of returning users a month, the options never dwindle on the site.

Did You Know?

Did you know that eHarmony was co-founded by clinical psychologist Neil Clark Warren? That probably explains its deep-rooted psychological algorithm!

Let's Get Into the Nitty Gritty

So you're sick of getting nowhere with all the other apps and sites you've milled through and you're ready to start seeing some results. I promise you that eHarmony's lengthy sign-up process will all be worth it, so let's get to how to actually go about making an account.

Creating an Account

This is the 'hard' part. To register, you'll first have to fill out the usual stuff, like your name, location, contact info, etc. Then you'll take that exciting Compatibility Test where you'll be asked all about your values, interests and habits.

It takes about 20 minutes to complete, and afterward, you'll get an entire Personality Analysis on your profile. After that, you will choose a payment plan (if desired) and get to the good stuff.


The results from your Compatibility Test will be available on your profile for all matches to see. Along with the results, there will also be a 'compatibility tab' that measures how well you and a potential match will mesh together.

Other than that, there's the usual profile stuff -- what you are looking for, where you are located, space for you to write a brief introduction and a place for those ever-so-important profile pics. Unlike some other dating sites where you have to put all your effort into creating the ultimate profile, eHarmony does all work for you with the Compatibility Test. Told you it was worth it!

The Apps (iOS and Android)

The eHarmony app is just like its website -- straightforward, easy-to-use and does all the work. You follow the same steps with the app as you do with the website.

Contacting People

Let's be honest: the hardest part of any dating app or site is the actual act of messaging. What are you supposed to say to a woman that 100 other men aren't already saying to her? That's where, yet again, eHarmony comes to save the day!

eHarmony uses a feature called an "ice breaker." Instead of spending time staring at the screen figuring out what to say, pick a pre-selected message to send away to that potential match. What's even better is that both premium and free members can use this feature.

Pro Tip

According to a 2020 study by Pew Research Center, women are five times more likely than men to think they are sent too many messages.... so definitely trust the algorithm on this one.

Premium Features

Honestly, you won't get the best out of eHarmony unless you opt for its premium features, available in either 6, 12 or 24-month increments. With premium, you can get unlimited matches, the ability to view all photos of matches and unlimited communication options.

The free version strictly limits what you can do in terms of actual communication with people (just winks, likes and ice breakers) so you will find more success by taking the plunge.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is it worth paying for Harmony?

If you're tired of using free apps or sites that aren't pairing you up with high-quality matches, then yes, eHarmony is worth the money. While a little costly, its features are beneficial in the long-run.

Is eHarmony safe?

Absolutely. The fact that eHarmony requires such a long sign-up process means fakes and scammers are least likely to be found here. Plus, the customer service is pretty top-notch compared to other sites.

Is it possible to report users?

Thankfully, yes. If you do come across someone particularly sketchy, you can report the user either directly from their profile or through your messages with them. eHarmony's Trust and Support team will take care of the rest.

Is eHarmony better than Match?

Match has a much bigger Millenial and Gen Z user base, so it definitely has the upper hand when it comes to younger users (or those seeking younger partners). If that is what you are looking for, opt for Match; otherwise, eHarmony is a safe bet.

How much does eHarmony cost?

On the site, you'll find three cost options:

1. 6 months = $59.90
2. 12 months = $35.90
3. 24 months = $25.90

Does eHarmony really work?

eharmony's whole tagline is that love can be found there. There are plenty of success stories as well as stories of failure, as is inevitable with any dating site. In the end, eHarmony has been around for so long because it has seen more successes than failures.

Is eHarmony good for 50-year-olds?

eHarmony promotes 'silver dating,' or dating for those of a certain age. Plus, the user base for those 50 and above is pretty solid, meaning there are definitely a good amount of options here.

Why is eHarmony so expensive?

Good question. eHarmony claims that its users are all looking for the same thing, which is why the cost may be on the upper side. By having such a high price, you won't have to deal with a bunch of people wanting something that you definitely don't.

Does eHarmony have fake profiles?

Unfortunately, all dating sites have the chance of being home to fake profiles. It's just the nature of the game! On the other hand, as mentioned previously, the sign-up process of the site weeds out a lot of potential scammers by being so detailed.

Why is eHarmony so successful?

eHarmony is successful because it's well-known, popular and appreciated by daters and researchers alike for its Compatibility feature. The site takes itself seriously and expects its users to as well.

Why are pictures blurry on Harmony?

Sadly, only paid members can see photos on eHarmony. It's a way the site convinces its users to start paying for premium.

What are the signs of an online dating scammer?

There are some key red flags to look out for with a potential online scammer. First, if they immediately want to communicate off the app, be wary. These scammers don't want any scams to be on record on the site where you can report them directly.

Additionally, if they ask you for any kind of financial assistance, immediately block and report. Scammers will rely on your feelings to get you to perform acts of kindness. Approach every possible match with your best judgment at all times.

Conclusion: Is eHarmony a good dating site?

So, is eHarmony worth all of the hoopla? If you're looking for the real deal, it may just be your best bet. I wouldn't recommend going into it if you're not willing to spend some money; there are plenty of better sites offering free options. But if you don't mind spending a little dough for the chance of meeting your dream girl, eHarmony is worth the shot.

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